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I spend a lot of time with writers and authors. And one of the biggest differences I see between a pro author who has published books and an amateur or hobbyist writer who dreams of being published is what their writing lives look like.
A pro author’s writing life sets them up for success. They have habits and commitment and systems for getting shit done. And they do what it takes no matter what.
Whereas an amateur writer’s writing life is actually sabotaging them. Often they make excuses and let life chaos and other nonsense stop them from doing the work.
The truth is you can shift your writing life SO quickly if you just set yourself up for success. Here are 5 ways to do that:
1. Acknowledge and Accept Where You Are
Before you can make changes–real changes that stick–you need to accept where you are right now. And accept it without judgement or giving yourself a hard time.
The thing I often find is that writers get so caught up in NOT doing the writing and not being consistent. They’ll place blame and feel guilty and worry that they’ll never achieve their goals.
And all that does is bring on more of the same.
But when you accept where you are and don’t judge it or make a big deal about it, you’re in a much better position to make changes. Say it with me now…”up until now I haven’t taken my writing seriously but from this day forward that all changes.”
2. Figure Out What Matters to You
This is super important. You have to make sure you’re focusing on and doing the writing that you actually care about and that matters to you.
I know that may sound silly, but you have no idea how many writers I see “shoulding” themselves into writing novels when they don’t really want to or writing blog posts when they’re just not that into it. But someone along their writing journey once told them they should be doing that stuff, so they are.
Problem is they don’t really care about it. And so they procrastinate and make excuses and find ways to keep putting the writing off.
If you’re not fueled by the writing you’re doing, stop doing it and find the writing that really matters to you. I love writing fiction and always saw myself as a novelist but now that I’m two novels deep, I’m feeling much more pulled to write screenplays. I’m happy that I’ve learned and mastered craft all these years because it will make my novelist-to-screenwriter transition much easier.
I could’ve spent year shoulding myself into writing more novels. And I probably will still write novels too. But I’m finally allowing myself to try other types of writing that I’m feeling pulled to try.
When you actually care about the writing you’re doing, you’re much less likely to put it off for other things. And you’ll show up to the page excited and inspired and ready to get started.
3. Make Space for What Matters
Now that you’re clear on the writing that actually matters to you, you have to make space for it. Yes, that means you have to look at your life currently and where you’re spending your time each day.
If you’re not sure, grab a notebook and spend the next couple of days tracking how you spend your time (you don’t have to do this for long, a couple days should be enough).
I guarantee you’ll see a lot of stuff that you do on a daily basis that is far less of a priority than your writing. So why exactly are you putting that stuff ahead of your writing?
Answer: because you think you’re supposed to. But the truth is you’re not. You’re supposed to do what matters to you and do it daily.
When you ignore your writing or put it off for other stuff that doesn’t really matter or is less important to you, that’s when life loses its joy and purpose. Unhappiness, resentment, depression, anger… they’re often side effects of not doing your soul work. In this case, that would be your writing.
If you feel that way–that writing is your soul work–then you must make space for it in your day.
Notice I said MAKE space not FIND space. Find implies you don’t currently have enough space which isn’t true. You have space, you’re just not using it right.
Make implies that you’re intentionally turning something into a priority. And priorities always get done.
Imagine if brushing your teeth every day wasn’t a priority! Of course you can’t imagine that because you always make time for it. Otherwise you’d have no teeth left to eat with or smile with.
Make your writing as much of a priority as brushing your teeth and your entire life will change.
4. Ruthlessly Kill Shit that Doesn’t Matter
I used to watch TV while eating my breakfast. I used to spend two+ hours on Sundays cleaning and tidying up my apartment. And both of those things used to get in the way of doing my writing.
Now I won’t even turn the TV on if I haven’t done my writing. Now I wouldn’t even consider spending two hours cleaning if I haven’t worked on my novel or written my blog post.
Why? Because I made the decision to kill off anything that doesn’t really matter to me and that just gets in the way of my productivity.
Yes, it takes discipline to do this. But I believe that discipline creates freedom.
I do my writing every day first thing in the morning before I do anything else. Because I do this, I get it done for the day and it’s off my mind. And magically I still find time to watch TV and to clean my apartment.
Do what matters. Kill off anything that doesn’t.
5. Do Your Writing Daily
Yes, I’m telling you to write every single day. No matter what. Just do your writing.
You want to feel better and be happier and have a more freedom-filled life? Then stop putting off your writing. Period.
Write for 15 minutes. Make notes for your story while you drink your coffee in the morning. Jot down a new scene on your phone while the kids are playing soccer.
Use the little pockets of time that you have available to you. If you do this daily, it will add up.
Rehabbing your writing life is pretty simple. It just requires you to be honest with yourself about what you’ve been doing up to this point, get clear on what actually matters, and then committing to making time for what matters every day.
Write with a purpose, live with intention,
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1. Decide What You Want
2. Tell Yourself How You Want It to Be
3. Bring On the Gratitude
4. See It As Normal
5. Keep Going
A year ago this month I was writing what would go on to become my first Amazon best selling book: Align Your Writing Habits to Success. I had no idea that was going to happen with that book. It wasn’t even a thought in my mind.
Because the only thing I was thinking about was the decision I just made to become a best selling author on Amazon in 2016 and the action I was taking next, which was to write and publish more books.
And that’s where Align Your Writing Habits to Success came in. After making the decision to become a best selling Amazon author and to write and publish more books, I received a Divine Download to take the content from the free 30-day writing habits challenge I created and turn it into an eBook.
So I did it. I took action and a few weeks later, Align Your Writing Habits to Success debuted on Amazon, hit #1 in the Authorship category and then stayed in the top 6 for a couple months.
In hindsight I can see the reason why this all happened as quickly as it did… because I decided that it would and then I took action.
Deciding is a HUGE part of achieving your goal. In fact, I can see now that not fully deciding and then taking action is a big part of why I spun my wheels in my writing life for so many years.
Because deciding cuts off all other options. Deciding says THIS IS WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN. Deciding means you’re putting your full belief in the goal you’re going after.
You may not know how it’s going to happen or when, but you can absolutely decide that it will happen and the details will work themselves out. But to do this requires something most people have a very hard time with (myself included at times)… Trust.
You must KNOW in your heart and soul that you are MEANT for whatever you want to achieve. You must FEEL IT. But even with that level of belief in yourself and in your goal, you must also have TRUST and FAITH in the Universe to deliver what you’re asking for, so long as you do your part (your part = deciding and then taking action).
The trust component to creating success is so important! And yet it often gets overlooked. You’ve probably experienced this first-hand. (I know I have!)
You want something. You want it bad. You dream about it at night and think about it all day long. It’s yours.
Except it’s not showing up in your reality. You’re not actually experiencing it or holding it in your hands. It’s not real in your world.
And you wonder why.
You’re doing the work. You’re showing up pretty consistently. You thought you were making some progress. And yet… nothing.
What it all comes down to, is trust.
If you’re feeling impatient or if you’re looking around at your reality and saying, “it’s not working” or “it’s not showing up,” then you’re not trusting. You’re actually doing the opposite of trusting.
You’re stuck in lack thinking and you’re afraid.
You’re looking around and noticing the lack of the thing you’re asking for, rather than trusting that you placed your order and you’re doing the work, which means what you’re asking for will eventually show up. Not having patience means you’re afraid that what you want won’t actually happen or that you’re not meant for it or that someone else may beat you to it (impossible, by the way, as there are things that only you are meant for and could ever do).
And that’s why deciding is such a huge part of creating what you want.
Because without deciding that it’s DONE and that it’s YOURS and no one and nothing in the world can take it away from you–even if you don’t physically see it in your reality or hold it in your hands right this minute–you’ll just continue to be impatient and continue to look around and say, “this isn’t working.”
And that’s where you’ll stay. Stuck and spinning your wheels.
Because the truth is, it’s always whatever you decide that it is.
So if you decide it’s not working or you’re not meant for it, well, guess what? That’s exactly what you’re going to experience.
But when you decide that it’s yours–even if you don’t have it yet–and when you feel it on every level of your being, that’s when it will come to you. And not a minute before.
But once you get there, once you get to making that decision and having that infinite trust and feeling in your soul that it’s yours and its on its way to you, it will show up so fast your head might actually spin.
There was less than a month between when I fully decided I was going to be a best selling author in 2016 and when it actually happened.
A month! After years and years of not allowing myself to want it because I had no idea how I’d make it happen, it happened. Within a month of deciding.
That’s how powerful deciding and then taking action can be when you let it.
So, what will you decide?
Write with a purpose, live with intention,
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So often people ask me how I’m able to get so much done in a single day. If you’ve been in my world for any amount of time you know at least one thing about me–that I’m a super high achiever and always have a million balls in the air all at once.
I’m cool with this. After years of fighting against it and trying to talk myself out of being this busy, I finally gave in and realized that I should do what feels right for me and screw what anyone else thinks.
I’m not saying it’s easy to do all that I do or handle all that I handle. It’s not. I feel overwhelmed at times. But then I take a deep breath and dive back in.
I get warned about burnout all the time. I’ve been hearing, “you take on too much” my entire life. And I totally respect people’s opinion and concern for me. I appreciate it.
But I don’t believe in burnout.
Gasp! Did she just say she doesn’t believe in burn out? But what about this example or this example or this one of people burning out?
I’m not saying burnout doesn’t happen. It does. But only when you’re not in alignment and living on purpose.
Back when I was working my corporate day job, I was burned the fuck out. I hated my life. I was stressed all day long, I spent hours of my time complaining, it was hell. Keeping that charade up any longer than I did would’ve burned me out and totally killed my soul.
Which is why I got out.
It’s why I started focusing all of my time on doing things I actually cared about and that mattered to me. It’s why I sit here right now, in the middle of the day, writing this blog post, feeling totally motivated and focused and ready for more.
Because when you give your time and focus to the things you actually care about and that actually matter to you, there’s no possible way you can burn out. Doing what you love and what you care about FUELS YOUR SOUL.
It fuels you with motivation and excitement and joy. Who can get enough of that?
Or here’s a better question, who’s getting enough of that right now? Not many people.
There are days where I forget to eat until dinner time. I wake up, get into my morning routine and before I know it the clock says 4 p.m. and my stomach is growling. There are nights I stay up ’til 3 a.m. because I’m so in flow with my writing and creating I couldn’t possibly even consider sleeping yet.
And there’s no way to burn out on the things that fuel your soul, which means you can do them forever and never ever stop or want to stop. I will be a writer ’til the day I die. I will be taking my final breath and I’ll still be on my MacBook trying to get my last words written down.
It’s impossible to burn out on the things that bring you to life.
So the question all of this brings me to, is this… are you doing what really matters to you?
Right now, if you look at your life, are you doing the things that matter? Do you go to bed at night feeling like you gave it your all?
If you don’t, there’s a high probability that you’re not doing what matters. And that’s why you feel burned out or have low energy or are unmotivated.
Because spending your time doing the wrong things will DRAIN YOU.
It will make you resentful. It will kill your will to live. It will BURN YOU OUT. Eventually you’ll be a robot-human, living life on autopilot, and numbing out with food and TV and sleeping too much.
When I finish my morning routine, it’s usually midday and I feel motivated, ready to take on more and like I have all the time in the world. Because I’ve already done my soul work for the day. I’ve already done what needed to be done.
Everything else that gets done is just a bonus after that.
So take some time to really think about whether or not you’re really spending your time doing what matters to you. If you’re not, it’s time for a reality check, because burn out could be in your future if you don’t start doing what you actually care about.
I never worry about burn out becuase I know I can never burn out on being me and doing what I love.
Write with a purpose, live with intention,