No one is paying attention. No one is interested. No one is buying.
That’s a question I ask myself A LOT. What would I need to believe to create the reality I want to see?
Because your thoughts and beliefs create your reality.
So if you want to achieve something or have something show up in your life, you need to be directing your thoughts and beliefs toward that goal or that thing. And the more you do that, the more your brain will accept it as real until one day it actually will become real.
You’ll be able to see it, hear it, touch it, maybe even taste it and smell it (depending on what it is). It will have manifested in your life.
The more you give your time to directing your thoughts and beliefs, and focusing on the things you want to create, the easier and faster you’ll see these things show up.
This whole ‘thoughts become things’ may seem crazy when you first hear it. It’s contradictory to everything you’ve been told about life and how the world works.
But even as contradictory as it sounds… there’s this weird feeling in you that, it may actually be true. Because when you hear it, your ears and your brain perks up. It resonates with you.
Or it might scare the fuck out of you.
Because the idea that you’re in control of what shows up in reality and that your beliefs and thoughts create the reality that you see around you… that puts a lot of responsibility on your shoulders.
You have to actually take control of yourself and your life.
The whole ‘thoughts become things’ scares me at times, too. But I’ve practiced it enough now to know that it actually DOES work. And it’s INSANE at times when stuff shows up in your life after you’ve thought about it.
And the Universe is always giving you little signs and signals to tell you that what you’ve been thinking about and focusing on is showing up. I see signs of my dream life ALL the time.
Lately I’ve been writing in my journal that my novels get turned into movies. This is my ultimate dream for my fiction—to turn my novels and my stories into movies on the big screen, with big-name actors and actresses. And of course, I get to help with the screenplay and have a cameo in the movies 🙂
Now no one would know that I’ve been writing about this in my journal unless I told them, right? (I haven’t told anyone until right now.) And yet the other day, a girl in my free Facebook group posted the craziest message… she had a dream that she was on the movie set for my novel, SoundCheck.
HOW CRAZY IS THAT??!!
OK, maybe that’s too woo-woo for you and you’ll brush it off as coincidence or random. It’s totally fine if you want to do that.
But here’s what I know: coincidence doesn’t exist. It’s not random when things happen that you’d usually call a coincidence.
It’s a sign, a signal from the Universe that what you’re asking for is unfolding. All you have to do to continue seeing signs and signals, is to KEEP GOING.
So I ask myself all the time what beliefs (and thoughts) I’d need to have to see what I’m asking for show up in my life.
When I look at this novel-to-movie dream, some of the limiting beliefs that pop up for me are:
- No one I know has ever done this
- What makes me think my stories are good enough to be on the big screen?
- Being a Hollywood screenwriter is a pipe dream
- There’s too much competition for me to achieve this dream
- Millions of other novelists have this exact same dream—to see their novels as movies on the big screen—what makes me think I’ll be one of the novelists who actually does it?
Thoughts and beliefs like that are NOT going to help me achieve my goal of having my novels turned into movies.
That’s why I have to ask myself what I’d need to believe in order to create what I want to see, so I can dig out those limiting, negative beliefs and thoughts that are going to hold me back.
When I think about the beliefs I’d need to have to align with my novel-to-movie goal, I think of:
- Nicholas Sparks, Sophie Kinsella, JoJo Moyes, Stephenie Meyer, Kathryn Stockett… just a small handful of novelists who have seen their novels turned into movies. If it can happen for them, it can happen for me.
- I know my genre and I know my readers and I know my stories would make awesome chick flicks
- You can do ANYTHING you set your mind to… even this
- There’s no such thing as competition because no one else can ever be me
- Shared dreams are powerful connectors between writers, and it motivates and inspires them to know what’s possible for one writer is possible for another
Beliefs and thoughts like that are much more likely to get me to my end result of seeing my novels turned into movies.
And that’s why I spend time each day creating and crafting my reality, exactly as I want to see it. First by writing about it in my journal as if it’s already my real life; and then visualizing it and feeling as if it’s already real; then going into my day acting like it’s already real and taking action in alignment with the belief that it’s real.
I taught a workshop locally last weekend all about my Bestselling Author Mindset Formula, and after I explained my daily mindset practice to the group, one man raised his hand and said that what I’m doing is a self-hypnosis exercise that focuses your brain.
And that’s really what writing your reality and crafting your thoughts and beliefs is. It’s reprogramming (or self-hypnotizing) your mental computer to focus on, think about and believe what YOU want it to.
Not what society has told you to think and believe. Not what you were taught to think and believe. Not what you see other people thinking and believing.
But what YOU want to think and believe.
That’s what matters. That’s the only thing that matters. Yes, action is involved too. You’re not gonna create your dream life sitting on the couch watching Netflix. You have to take daily actions that align with your goals.
But you knew that already.
What’s hard is getting yourself to take the actions and take them daily and consistently, like you know you need to be. And that’s where the beliefs come in.
Because when you believe something is already true, you’re much more likely to take action and do the work. When you believe it’s possible for you to have, do and be something, you’ll turn off the Netflix and get to it.
But when you have beliefs and thoughts that contradict the goal you have, that’s when you’ll use Netflix (and procrastination, and binge-eating, and wasting time on Facebook) as a way of sticking your head in the sand and avoiding the work.
Which is why you’ve gotta get your mind to your goal before your life will get there. Beliefs create thoughts which create actions which create results.
Want to hear the best part?
You can get wherever you want to go in your writing life, by starting right where you are right now. And by consciously deciding that you will direct your thoughts and beliefs toward the outcomes and results you want to see in your life.
I really challenge you to take this one on. To spend 5-10 minutes a day consciously directing your thoughts and beliefs to where you want to go. Do it first thing in the morning if you’re able to. (Here’s a book and journal that can help you do this.)
Direct your thoughts and beliefs every day for the next 90 days. Report back.
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Did you know that you can make yourself into anything you want to be? That you have the power to create who you are and what your life and reality looks like?
It’s inside you. Right now.
It always has been.
It’s been with you since the beginning of time. Just sitting there, waiting for you to use it.
But you have to actually use it.
There are two ways to go through life:
1. Reacting to everything that happens around you in your current reality
2. Intentionally creating everything you want to experience, be, do and have
Which one sounds like more fun to you? Which one excites you with possibility and opportunity?
Option 2. Obviously.
And yet so many people are choosing Option 1, living their lives being reactive to all the shit that goes on around them. Letting the energy and vibe of their day be decided by the first Facebook posts or emails they read.
Getting out of bed and reading the newspaper or watching the news on TV, first thing, before they’ve even finished their morning coffee.
It’s like playing roulette with your life. Having your vibe for the day decided by someone or something else… and you never know what it’s gonna be.
Some days it might be uplifting stuff that makes you feel really good. While other days it may be stuff that makes you angry or annoyed or feeling like the world is going to hell in a hand basket.
You never know what kind of day it’s gonna be until you check your social media or emails or whatever other thing you read online first thing in the morning.
And this is your life. Over and over again, every day. Reacting to things that are happening around you.
I used to wake up and the first thing I did was check my Facebook alerts and my emails. Most days would be a good day, because I tend to follow positive, uplifting people online.
But some days I’d get a hate email or some other kind of bad news, and it would throw my day and my mind into a tailspin for the rest of the day. (Back to bed, try again tomorrow.)
It wasn’t until I started to choose Option 2—to consciously create how I wanted to feel, think and be all day long—that my life got better.
And then even when I’d get bad news or saw something that didn’t make me feel good, I had already decided on how my day was going to be, and nothing was going to penetrate that decision.
How do I create my day with intention? Here’s what I do…
- Get outside and breathe in fresh air first thing in the morning when I take the dog for a walk (or even just outside to potty if the weather prevents us walking)
- Write a freestyle entry in my journal and then write out my reality as I want to see it in my actual life—I declare who I am now deciding to be, what I’m now deciding to have, and what I’m now deciding to do.
- Visualize for 5-7 minutes a day—I have to force myself to do this one some times (and sometimes I only do 4 minutes, which is my bare-minimum), but visualizing the reality that I want to see in my actual life helps me to feel like I already have it. And that helps me to bring it to life.
- Put first things first—after my mindset practice, I move on to writing my daily think different blog post, sharing what I’m thinking and feeling in the moment. After that I spend 30-60 minutes working on my book(s). Then I post my blog on my website and set it up to be sent out as an email to my community. And then I do at least 15 minutes of fitness (aka: yoga, another walk with the dog, weights, cardio, etc).
I do all of what I just listed out BEFORE I check my emails. BEFORE I go on Facebook. BEFORE I read my text messages. BEFORE I’ll answer my phone (I rarely ever answer my phone anyhow). BEFORE I let anyone else interfere with my vibe or my energy.
It took time to develop this daily habit of not choosing Option 1 and not allowing myself to be reactive to the world.
Now I intentionally create my day and my life. I make myself. Every single day. Over and over again.
I decide who I am and who I’m choosing to be. I declare it in my journal every single day…
I am a bestselling author. I am the best at what I do. I am growing a multi-million dollar writing empire transforming writers, authors and creators lives, doing all the things I love to do and making a fuck load of money from it.
I used to be afraid to write things like that on paper. I felt ashamed to even want the things I wanted. Because it was programmed into me from a young age that you should feel guilty when you have more than other people or when you have something that someone else doesn’t.
And so I always played life small. I always kept my dreams to mediocre things that I felt were possible for me. If I didn’t know how I could make it happen or if I didn’t believe it was possible for me, I wouldn’t allow myself to want it. I’d push it down and pretend like I didn’t care and it didn’t matter to me.
But inside I was dying.
Because you can’t push away the things you desire and the dreams you hold in you and think you’ll be OK. You won’t be.
You’ll think about it all day, every day. Even when you manage to push it away, it will still pop back to remind you that it’s there and that it wants to be expressed.
You can’t run from your dreams and think they’ll eventually leave you alone. They won’t. They’ll be there with you ’till the day you take your final breath.
And it’s up to you to decide how your life goes down before that happens. You can either choose Option 1 and spend your life reacting to the world.
Or you can choose Option 2 and create yourself and your life exactly as you’ve always dreamed it to be.
I’m not gonna lie—choosing Option 2 takes work at first. Because you’ve got years of momentum going with the old programming that tells you to choose Option 1. It’s a lot to overcome and the momentum gives it power.
So you have to build a habit around choosing Option 2. You have to make a conscious choice every single day, to create yourself and your day and your life exactly as you want it to be.
And you have to decide that you’re not gonna let the world in until AFTER you do that.
I know it’s SO HARD not to check your email in the morning or to see what’s happening on Facebook. But even taking an hour for yourself first, to do your mindset practice and handle your first things first activities, will totally change your life.
One of my mentors always says you get to choose what you give your life for. Because you’re always giving your life for something.
You can either give your life for your dreams, or you can give it for the other BS excuses and life chaos that’s happening around you. The choice is yours.
So…which option do you choose?
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I woke up this morning, took the dog out, did my journaling and mindset practice… but I didn’t want to write. Right after I finish my journaling is when I usually sit down and write my blog post for the day and then work on some fiction (or whatever book project I have going on).
But today, I didn’t feel like it.
I had nothing to say. I couldn’t think of any ideas. And it’s GORGEOUS out today. It’s a beautiful spring day in Western NY and the temperature is 63. In March!! SO not the usual for us this early in the year. Usually we’re buried in snow for another two months.
But today, it’s beautiful.
Surely this kind of weather in the beginning of March can be an excuse for not doing my writing for the day. I did my writing for the last two days, so I don’t need to do it today.
And besides, I don’t feel like it.
This nagging voice inside… telling me that I need to. That even though I don’t feel like it, it’s my responsibility to sit down to the page and show up.
Even if I don’t feel like it.
But, UGH!!! I have nothing to say! I’m out of ideas. I’ve written enough this week!
And yet, the voice nags on…
You’re a writer. You were BORN to write. So you have a RESPONSIBILITY to SHOW UP every day and do the writing.
Writers who are born to write are messengers for the world. They have ideas and stories and stuff inside that needs to be unleashed—that people NEED to hear. And it’s IRRESPONSIBLE and WRONG to keep that stuff to yourself. To hoard it and not bring it out into the world where it rightly belongs.
Your community, your readers, your people need to hear those stories, those ideas, those messages. They’re waiting to hear them. Waiting for the moment when you come along and write something that changes their lives. That makes them think. That entertains them. That causes them to wake up and take action in their own lives because they’re so inspired, motivated and blown away by that little piece of writing you put out into the world.
These stories and ideas came to you for a reason. They CHOSE you.
Because you’re the one who’s meant to channel them from stories and ideas and messages in your head, to words on the page.
And by NOT writing, you’re doing a disservice to all of the people who need to hear from you. Who wake up and the first thing they do is wonder what you have to say today. Who check their emails every morning, looking for a blog post from you.
Who are DISAPPOINTED when they don’t find one.
Because your community, your readers, your fans WANT to hear from you. They want to hear what you have to say. They need to hear it. So they can keep going. So they can put one foot in front of the other today. So they can stay focused on their dream life and creating it for themselves.
Are you really going to DENY them of what they need by not writing today?
OK—I get it! Loud and clear.
I must write. I must write every day. I must write and create and unleash what’s inside me. The stories, the ideas, the messages.
Even when I don’t feel like it.
Even when I don’t have the time.
Even when it’s the last thing I want to do.
I must write. I must write for those who need to hear from me. For those who are motivated, inspired and empowered in their own lives by reading my words.
So I take the dog for a walk and I ask a question, out loud, to the Universe: what does my community need to hear from me today?
And then we walk. Soon after, a phrase comes to me… the responsibility to write.
Now I’m getting impatient. Dog—stop smelling everything in sight! We need to get back home so I can write. The words are piling up in my head with every step we take.
Responsibility to write… You must… It’s a non-negotiable when you’re born to write…
Back in the apartment, I sit at my computer, open my doc and let the words flow.
What comes out is this post. This post that I didn’t want to write. That I didn’t even feel like writing.
But I wrote it anyhow. Because that’s what a pro writer does.
And you’re a pro writer, aren’t you?
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I’m always thinking about how I got where I am in the moment. Looking at the journey I’ve taken so far and trying to figure out what, exactly, brought me to this point.
And I especially love to compare where I used to be to where I am now, not only to remember how far I’ve come, but also to remember how much I’ve overcome.
I’ve learned A LOT over my decade+ being an online entrepreneur, and while there are so many lessons and insights I could share, probably the BIGGEST one and the one that will get you where you want to go the fastest, is this…
Success is a discipline.
A lot of creative people avoid discipline because they see it as stifling and uncreative. I used to feel the same way. I used to procrastinate and avoid doing the work, all the while telling myself that one day I’d get my shit together and my dream life would start to unfold.
The problem was that I wasn’t doing it. Because I bought into the BS belief that success is something you stumble across, rather than create.
Maybe you’ve heard people say—“some day I’ll be…” or “one day I’ll do…” (insert whatever dream the person has). And the problem with some day and one day, is that IT MAY NEVER COME.
Because success is NOT guaranteed. Your dream life is not guaranteed.
You may have been born fully deserving and worthy of the life you dream, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to come to fruition.
I avoided creating habits around success for a really long time, because I believed that habits and discipline took my freedom away from me. And my core value in life, above all else, is freedom.
I wanted to live free and be free and control everything and have it all on my terms and I didn’t want to answer to anyone. From a young age, I dreamed of freedom. I dreamed of having everything I’ve ever wanted, exactly as I wanted it.
That’s all I remember thinking about as a kid… freedom. To do what I wanted, when I wanted to do it.
But for a lot of my adult life, I didn’t feel free. I felt totally under lock-and-key; first with my day jobs, and then after I quit my job, succumbing to the addictions that were holding me back—sugar, watching TV, procrastination.
When I thought about it… how much sugar I was eating, how much TV I was watching, how often I procrastinated on the things that actually mattered to me… I realized that I wasn’t free.
All I ever wanted was freedom. That’s why I quit my day job to be a full-time entrepreneur, so I could answer to no one but myself and do whatever I wanted to do, all day, every day.
But I didn’t have that. I wasn’t free. I was being controlled by a substance (sugar), and I was being controlled by bad habits (watching too much TV and procrastination). So while I had avoided creating good habits and being disciplined for years because I thought it would take my freedom away, I found myself totally stuck and being controlled by outside factors.
And that is NOT freedom.
It’s only when I rose to the occasion—when I started to consistently show up and to put first things first and to make sure I did what actually mattered every day—that things started to change.
Suddenly, I felt freer. I felt like I was in control. I felt like I was writing with a purpose and living with intention. Something I’d been so afraid to do previously because I thought it would take my freedom away.
But over the years I’ve discovered that freedom comes from being disciplined. It comes from doing what matters and doing it first thing before you do anything else.
I’ve even started getting up earlier every day (for me, anyhow!), because I’m starting to see that getting up early actually creates MORE freedom for me.
You have no idea how AMAZING it feels to have completed my journaling and mindset work, finished writing my blog post, worked on my books, and spent at least 15 minutes exercising… all before Noon. (Some days before 11 a.m.)
For a while I wasn’t even starting my get-shit-done time ’till after 1 p.m. when I finally got my ass out of bed and got moving for the day. And at first I thought that was freedom. I was intentionally choosing to stay up really late, to sleep in, and to avoid doing any real work ’till the afternoon time.
Until recently when I discovered that I wasn’t actually free doing things that way. I was giving my life to sleeping half the day away and then bumbling around for 2-3 hours after I got up, not really doing much of anything, and then getting caught up in life stuff during the afternoon, and not ending up working on anything of any importance until well after 7 p.m.
That’s not exactly freedom, even if I was intentionally choosing it.
Because I wasn’t fully creating the success I wanted to see. I was sleeping during what turned out to be my most creative and productive time of day… the mornings.
I’m a night owl. Always have been. When I was kid, I used to do whatever I could to find ways to stay up as late as possible. I hated going to bed, even when I was tired. And being creative and getting stuff done at night was working OK for me… but it didn’t feel very free.
Because most nights I’d have to skip out on whatever was going on in my actual life—fun stuff like hanging out with my husband and our friends or making plans to actually leave the house and go do something—in order to do all the stuff I didn’t do during the day.
Because I procrastinated. Because I slept way too late. Because I was watching way too much TV.
Over the last couple weeks, I’ve been experimenting with getting up early (or at least, early for me!) and honestly it shifted something in me.
I’ve never been a morning person, because I prefer the nighttime. But what I didn’t realize is that I prefer the nighttime to do whatever the fuck I want to do—read, watch movies, go out and do something, just chill and relax. And I wasn’t getting to do that because I had to make up for my lack of daytime productivity by hustling my ass off at night. Sometimes until 2 or 3 a.m.
Not exactly freedom, is it?
But on the days when I get up early, I’m insanely productive and creative and inspired and motivated, and by 1 p.m. when I’d usually just be starting my work day, I’ve already got all the most important stuff I needed to do that day FINISHED.
Creating the success you want to see in your life comes down to discipline and habit.
If you don’t have the success you dream of currently, I’d look at your habits and the things you have discipline around. Oh—what’s that you say? You don’t have any discipline or productive habits?
Well, that’s why you don’t have the success you want.
I’m saying this to myself as much as I’m saying it to you. Discipline creates freedom. And success is a daily habit.
Success is a way of thinking, a way of being and a way of acting. Until I realized that, I was actually sabotaging my own success.
Now I’m creating the success I want to see, by becoming habitual and having discipline around the things that really matter.
I totally get it now, the whole success thing. So many people think success comes from being special or from knowing more than everyone else or from having better connections or rich parents or a bunch of money to invest or whatever. But it’s NONE of that.
The truth is, success is a habit. It’s a discipline.
Success requires consistency. It requires you to show up every single day and do what matters. Over and over again.
THAT’S what creates success. Nothing else.
Wrap your head around that and you will change your life in ways you can’t even begin to imagine right now.
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As writers and storytellers, we’re often thinking about the fictional stories we want to tell and the fictional reality we want to create for our characters.
But we don’t often think about the fictional stories that we’re telling ourselves. The fictional programming we’ve had since childhood that’s creating our lives and our realities right at this very moment.
While the fictional stories we want to tell are important, what’s more important is the fictional stories we’re telling ourselves.
Because it’s THOSE stories that are causing us to either have it all or have nothing. To love ourselves and our lives or to dislike all of the above.
You may not realize it because it’s a mostly subconscious thing, but there are stories you’ve been telling yourself your entire life—or that you’ve been told your entire life—about the so-called reality of the world and of life and of you.
But here’s the thing… just because you’ve had those stories and told those stories for so long, doesn’t mean you have to keep telling them. Because you don’t.
You can create ANYTHING you set your mind to, and ANYTHING is possible and achievable when your mind believes it is.
So with that kind of knowledge and that kind of power… what would ever make you think that you have to continue living those old stories that you’re telling yourself? And you know the stories I’m talking about…
- I’m broke
- I can’t do this
- It’s too hard
- Money is so hard
- Life is a struggle
- Writing is a struggle
- Writers are broke
- Writers don’t make money
- Writing isn’t a real career
- I can’t get paid to do what I love
- Doing what you love is for retirement
- I’m fat
- I’m ugly
- I’m too old
- I’m too young
- I’m not good enough
- [insert your own BS stories and excuses here]
All of these (and more) are just FICTIONAL STORIES!! They’re made up, bullshit things that you’ve been telling yourself your whole life—or have been told your whole life. BUT—you don’t have to keep CHOOSING to tell this story or to let this programming run in the background of your mind.
You can consciously CHOOSE every single day, to write a new story. To wake the fuck up and realize that you are the only one who creates your reality. YOU. No one else. And no one else has ANY control over you or your life—unless you CHOOSE to give your power and your control over to them.
Life doesn’t happen to you. You DON’T have to live your life just reacting to what’s happening around you.
You can CHOOSE to create the day, week, life, MOMENT that you want to have, right fucking now. You can choose it and you can create it. All you have to do is set your mind to it and not deviate from that thought.
And you do not, do not, DO NOT have to do what everyone else is doing. In fact, you shouldn’t. Even if your best friend is doing it. Even if your siblings are doing it. Even if your parents are doing it. Even if every damn person around you is doing it.
That is their choice—and yes, they are making a choice, even subconsciously—to buy into the bullshit. To believe that reality is what’s true and imagination is what’s fictional.
When the TRUTH IS, it’s the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!!
Your thoughts and beliefs are CAUSE, the current reality you see around you is EFFECT. Which means your imagination and thoughts are what’s actually REAL and your reality is FICTION.
Because you can change and shift your reality anytime you CHOOSE to. You can wake up today and think a new thought and create a new, empowering belief, and act in a different way.
Normal people who know me think I’m out of my damn mind. People tell me on a regular basis that I live in La-La Land. And you know what?
I DON’T GIVE A FUCK!!
Because I KNOW what’s true about the Universe that we live in and I KNOW that living in La-La Land is the ONLY WAY to make your dreams a reality.
Yes, you have to take real, practical and consistent action in your actual physical reality, every single day. BUT—if you can get your mind to your destination first (via your imagination), you WILL see the results you want to see.
It’s literally IMPOSSIBLE for you not to. Because THAT’S HOW IT WORKS!!
If you keep showing up, keep directing your mind to where you want it to go, and stay entirely focused on your dreams and on the goals you have for yourself and your life, you will get there. It’s inevitable.
You just have to find a way to IGNORE everything in your current reality that you don’t like, don’t approve of or don’t want to live as a story anymore.
I get up every single morning and spend 30-60 minutes journaling and creating the reality I want to see in my real life. Over and over and over again programming into my mind and into my beliefs what I know and want to be true for me and my life.
Some might call that insanity. I call it using your power to intentionally create the life you want.
I no longer let life’s little BS get to me. Because I know that will always happen, and it’s my perspective, attitude and choice how I respond to it that really matters.
It’s time to release the old stories. Time to figure out what you actually WANT to see and have happen in your life, and then reprogram any thoughts and beliefs that oppose it.
Because it’s totally up to you. And a belief is just a thought you keep thinking. Which means you can CHANGE IT anytime you CHOOSE TO.
No, it won’t be easy. But it WILL BE easier than continuing to live a life that makes you miserable, depressed and causes you to wonder if this really is all there is.
I’m here to tell you it’s not. Not even close. Because the reality you currently see around you is just a product of—the EFFECT OF—your previous ways of thinking, believing and acting. And your thoughts, beliefs and actions are ALWAYS in your control.
Really, they’re the only things you need to be in control of. Because once you’re in control of your thoughts, beliefs and actions, you can and you will be able to create absolutely ANYTHING you want for yourself and your life.
Even if what you see in your current reality is a million miles away from where you want to be.
That gap can be filled QUICK when you tune into your inner world and connect with the power of your mind. A current reality that looks dire right now can totally transform in a matter of days—even minutes—when you get your mind in the right place.
Transformation does not have to take years and years of your life. Transformation can happen in an instant—if you’re open to it and believe that it’s possible.
Because that’s what it all comes down to. What do you believe is possible? And not just what do you believe is possible, but what, specifically, do you believe is possible for YOU?
Most people won’t take on the responsibility of caring about how they think, what they believe, how they act and how they feel. They won’t because it’s easier to just keep focusing on the negative stuff and to keep telling yourself the same old BULLSHIT stories that you have up to this point.
But really… is it?
Because living a life of struggle, of lack, of limitation, of NOT ENOUGH is one of the HARDEST things I’ve ever lived through. And it made life SUCK.
What I do now is so much easier. I get up every single day and I journal and I set intentions for my day and my life and for who I am and want to be. And then I do the work, I take action and I show up for my dreams. All the while trusting that it will all work out, because it always does.
Do I have days where I get caught up in my current reality and worrying that I’ve lost my mind thinking that things will ever change for me? You bet. We all do. It’s part of being human.
But I REFUSE to stay stuck in that. I REFUSE to let that take over my mind and all the work I do to keep my focus on my dreams and where I want to go.
I REFUSE to live my old stories of struggle, lack, limitation and not enough anymore. I just flat out fucking refuse.
Because I’m better than that (and so are you). And I know what’s possible when you believe it is. I’ve seen it and I’ve experienced it and I’ve lived it.
And that is what I will continue living. A life of ease. Of flow. Of abundance. Of unlimited possibility and potential. A life where dreams come true, success is inevitable, and I can HAVE IT ALL and ON MY TERMS.
That is the life I CHOOSE to create. And so it is.
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For a long time I dreamed of seeing my book at #1 on Amazon; of more readers finding my books and transforming their lives, because the books is at #1 and actually has a chance at being shown to potential readers.
Problem was, I had no idea HOW I was going to make this happen. I didn’t know anyone who’d done it. And I had never done it before, so the steps were unknown to me.
So because I didn’t know HOW I was going to get my book to #1 on Amazon, I didn’t allow myself to want it. I just pretended that I didn’t care and that it didn’t really matter to me.
I even recall making fun of authors who called themselves “best selling authors” just from hitting #1 on Amazon. (And now I do it–ha!)
The point being, I did everything I could think of to downplay the fact that I really wanted to hit #1 on Amazon. Just because I didn’t know HOW to do it.
Thankfully this year, I finally accepted the lesson that was given to me over and over again for years… the HOW is NOT up to you.
What that means: HOW you do something isn’t what matters. It’s DOING SOMETHING that matters.
In February I came across an author who has published 47 eBooks–46 of which were best sellers on Amazon. It finally made me realize that if she could do it that many times, I could do it at least once.
Suddenly my fear of not knowing HOW I was going to do it shifted to a belief that I could do it.
At that point, the specifics of HOW didn’t really matter, because I was finally to a place where I not only wanted it, but I believed I could have it. It finally felt possible for me to be #1 on Amazon.
So I started writing in my journal every day that, “I am a best selling author” and “I am #1 on Amazon.” And then I started talking about wanting to hit #1. I even told my accountability buddy about it.
And then I made a decision: I would hit #1 on Amazon in 2016.
(Still at this point had no idea HOW I’d do it.)
Not long after, I got an email about a tool called Bestseller Ranking Pro. Out of no way, a HOW had shown up.
I could use this tool to find the right category to put my book in, so people can actually find it. And that will help me get to #1. Boom! I bought the software.
After looking through the BRP categories and info, I decided I was going to write an eBook about the structure of love stories. The “craft” category was a good fit for this book.
I wasn’t totally thrilled with that book idea, but it was an idea to get me started. Thankfully, right after that I got another idea–what if I took the 30-day challenge I just did to help me revamp my writing habits and turned it into an eBook?
That idea really inspired me, so I decided to put that book together and publish it first, and then go back and write the structure of love stories one.
The more practical side of me also had a thought: if I’m going to hit #1, I need to write and publish more books.
So I announced that I was going to write and publish 9 books in 2016. And then I got inspired to invite people to watch me as I wrote and published these books and turned one of them into a best seller.
(Still no real idea HOW I’d do this. Just some nudges and ideas.)
I published “Align Your Writing Habits to Success” in May and two days after it went live it hit #1 on Amazon. (And then my book, “The 15-Minute Writer”hit #1 in multiple categories two months after!)
I had achieved the goal of hitting #1 and being a best selling author on Amazon.
Looking back, I never had any idea HOW I’d do it. I just took whatever actions I could think of.
And that’s the whole point.
It’s NOT about the specific actions that you take. You can take actions that seem random and if you’re still moving in the direction of your desired outcome, the right HOW will eventually show up and you’ll get there.
My story is the perfect example–I was planning on a totally different book hitting #1 by me using the BRP tool and writing a book for a specific category; and a book I never even expected to have hit #1 did, multiple times. (Pretty much shuts up the “you need to know HOW” argument, right?)
How I achieved a #1 best seller on Amazon didn’t happen because of any one thing I did. It happened because of ALL the things I did–this year and all the years leading up to this one.
The HOW that gets you to your desired end result can only be found by creating momentum. And you create momentum by taking action–any actions–that move you in the direction you want to go.
The actions can be simple, easy things and still be powerful enough for the Universe to meet you half-way.
Because the Universe doesn’t care what actions you take. Big or small. Super risky or playing it safe. It just cares that you’re DOING SOMETHING. (Although the bigger, bolder actions always pay off more than staying in your comfort zone.)
Want to become a published author? Write a book. Show up every day and put words on the page. Learn the steps in the self-publishing process. Do your research.
The specific HOW that gets you to the desired end result of being a published author will show up as a result of you doing all those other things.
What you don’t want to do is decide you want something and then sit on your ass thinking it’s just going to show up one day. ‘Cause it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
10 Steps to Making Shit Happen
If you’re been feeling stuck or frozen because you don’t know HOW you’re going to achieve something, or because you’re overwhelmed by HOW much there is to learn and know and do… I’m gonna simplify it for you in 10 basic steps:
- Take a deep breath and relax–it’s not that serious.
- Remind yourself that you’re in the right place, exactly where you are right now.
- Write down your desired end result (one or more).
- For each end result you want, make a list of all the things you can think of right now that you could do to move in that direction. It doesn’t matter if the steps are out of order, totally random, or make no practical sense; just write everything down that comes to you.
- Choose one of the steps/actions you listed and do it right now.
- When that action is done, do the next one. (Whichever one pops out to you as the one to do next.)
- Repeat steps 5-6.
- Add any new inspired actions and ideas to the list as you go.
- Act on as many of the actions and ideas from your list as you can.
- Trust that any specific HOW you need to get you to that final end result will show up as a result of you doing steps 5-9.
And there you have it–get the hell out of the HOWS and stay focused on the end result.
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You know that day when you finally realized you’re meant to be a writer? That day you knew there was nothing else in the entire world you could see yourself doing forever except writing? That other things will come and go–as is typical for a multi-passionate person–but writing will never say die.
Because you are born to write. It’s in you. It’s who you are.
You couldn’t separate you from your writing, because it would be like separating yourself from a vital organ. Impossible.
If you’re born to write, you know it. You feel it in every cell of your being. And even if you’re not totally 100% confident yet, you know what you are called to do.
Write. Put words on the page. Inspire, motivate, teach, instruct, lead, entertain… with your words. Tell stories, share experiences, pass along messages that connect us all.
I believe those who are called to write have a responsibility–to show up every day; to put words on the page; to hit publish and get those words, those stories, those messages, out into the world.
You have a RESPONSIBILITY.
You were gifted with the written word for a reason. You were born to be a vessel for the ideas, thoughts, lessons, messages, experiences and stories the world needs to hear.
Those things you hear inside you–the characters, thoughts, stories, ideas–they’re REAL. And they want to be let out.
But only YOU can let them out. There is no one else.
They came to you for a reason. Because you’re born to write them. And no one else could ever come close to doing it the justice you will do it.
There is incredible power in being born to write, because words are powerful, stories are powerful, and sharing your thoughts, experiences and message is powerful.
Being born to write isn’t for the faint of heart. No, it’s gifted only to those who can handle it. Those who truly have what it takes to go all the way–to finish and hit publish and get those stories and messages into the hands of the people who need them most.
Writers who are born to write often struggle with it more than writers who choose to write because it’s a hobby they enjoy. This happens because we often have a deep Resistance to doing our soul’s work, our creative work. (Read “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield for more on this.)
And because that Resistance is inevitable–as it is for ALL creative people–writers who are born to write must be that much more committed and that much more disciplined to put words on the page each day.
Even if it’s only for 15 minutes. Even if it’s right before you go to sleep. Even if you have a million other things that seem way more important.
Nothing is more important than putting those stories, experiences and messages on the page and getting them out into the world.
The sooner you see that, the sooner you will start to have everything in your life fall into place. Because here’s the thing–when you’re born to write, you’re connected to writing on a soul level. It’s part of your being.
For that reason, when you ignore your writing, when you skip your writing sessions, when you tell yourself your writing is not that important, when you put it off for later–THAT’S why things are a mess–internally and/or in your life.
Because you cannot ignore your soul and think anything else will work. It might feel like it’s working, even without your all-in on being an author. But I promise you, it can and will work a ton better if you’re putting first things first and getting your writing done.
Every day. Writing is a priority. Before anything else.
If you do this, even 15 minutes a day is enough time to start creating the writing life you’ve always dreamed of having. The writing life you were born to have. And along with it the success, money, fame and whatever else you dream of having.
It all starts with making your writing a priority. Because when you’re born to write, writing is your tool for creating everything you desire.
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So many writers and creative people hold the belief that, “it has to take a long time” and “you’ve gotta pay your dues.” And yeah, it’s also true that A LOT of people hold this belief.
But you know what isn’t true?
That belief. It’s not true. Not even remotely true.
Unless YOU decide that it is.
I’ve decided that 2017 is the year I break six-figures from my book sales. I’ve decided it’s the year I’m going to thrive in my writing career like never before.
Sure, this year has been amazing and I’ve built up some killer momentum. But it’s not enough.
Because I want to blow the ‘starving artist’ mentality OUT OF THE WATER. And, yes, it IS a mentality. One that’s keeping most authors insanely broke and unfulfilled.
But here’s the great part–you can change a mentality.
You can actively choose the thoughts you think and the beliefs you hold. You can choose to create exactly the writing life you’ve always dreamed of having.
But you have to CHOOSE. Consciously. Actively. Every single day.
You have to decide that you’re not going to accept the ‘starving artist’ mentality as truth for you. You have to decide that you’re going to be an author who THRIVES.
Yes, it will take time to create this in your physical reality. But it will happen a whole lot faster if you get your mind there first.
And yes, there are people in the world who refuse to see past the limitation that is the ‘starving artist’ mentality. These are the creative people who say things like, “I can’t quit my job and become a full-time writer or I’ll end up living in a cardboard box” or “writing is a hobby” or “one day I’ll make it happen” or “writers are broke” or “it’s just a pipe-dream” or [insert whatever lame excuse you give or have been given for why you can’t thrive as a writer].
Those are the creative people who will never see their full dreams come to fruition. Because it’s impossible to create a big, successful, thriving creative career with a belief like that.
And what’s sad is, just by changing that mindset and by seeing themselves as thriving artists, those same creative people could have a totally different experience.
Because you create your own reality. And you do it with your thoughts, your beliefs and your actions (or inactions).
So if you’re looking around and you don’t like what you see; if you’re dreaming of being a thriving author, meanwhile you’re still holding a day job and barely making book sales, it’s time for a mindset intervention.
It’s time to go within, dig around, pull out those limiting beliefs–the ones that are stopping you and holding you back–and GET RID OF THEM!!!
And you really don’t even have to dig around. If you want to know what limiting beliefs you currently have, you can find out by doing 2 things:
- Looking around you–your reality is a reflection of all that you’ve thought, believed and acted on up to this point.
- Start telling yourself new, empowering beliefs–just by doing this, you’ll start to catch all the limiting beliefs because they’ll show up as that negative voice inside that tells you you’re wrong or that you can’t do it, etc., whenever you say the new beliefs.
You really can change your life by changing your thoughts.
So your choice is to either continue buying into the ‘starving artist’ mentality, and believing that it has to be a struggle, that you have to work insanely hard and pay your dues, and that even if you do eventually make it, you’ll be lucky to earn low five-figures a year from your creative work.
OR, you can tell yourself something different.
You can tell yourself that you make millions from your books. And that you quit your job and become a full-time writer who thrives and has more than enough, always. And that your books hit the NY Times Best Seller list and get turned into Hollywood movies. (‘Cause that’s what you’re really dreaming of, right?)
Which one inspires you? Which ones makes you feel better? Which one motivates you to take action?
Exactly. The thriving artist version.
And when it all comes down to it, it’s just a perspective. If you choose to believe in ‘starving artists,’ then that’s what you’re going to find in your experience. And if you choose to believe in ‘thriving artists,’ then that’s what you’re going to find in your experience.
The reality you choose to experience is totally up to you.
For example, a few months ago I decided that I’m well-known in the writing industry and that big-name people contact me and want to partner with me and work with me. I decided that my podcast is a must-listen for writers everywhere and that big-name people want to be interviewed by me.
This past weekend, I booked a big-name guest for my podcast AND I got contacted by a big-name author who wanted to talk to me about how we can help each other out.
Your reality is what you decide it’s gonna be. So decide you’re going to be a thriving author and you will be.
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A common complaint I hear from writers is this–why does it take so long?
And when they say that, they mean: why isn’t my book selling? Why am I still revising when I want to be published? Why have I been looking for an agent for a year now without any bites?
And, most of all, when am I finally gonna make some money?
I know it’s tough. You’ve been at this for years, possibly even most of your life so far. You’ve dreamed about it, you’ve set goals around it. And yet things just seem to be moving like molasses.
And here’s what I always say to the writers who make this complaint: I feel you, but it takes as long as it takes.
Because the truth about this whole being a pro writer thing is that it’s long-term. Being a writer and having a successful writing career doesn’t happen overnight. It takes years of hard work, commitment and consistency to start seeing the results you want.
So you either have to be in it for the long-haul, or you may as well get out now.
Because, like everything in life, writing success is a journey, it’s a process, it’s something that builds over time. And you may not see it at first, but when you look back 10, 20, 30 years down the road, you’ll see how far you’ve come and how long it actually takes to create success.
No one does it overnight.
I started freelance writing professionally in 2007, and launched my writing blog in 2008. I wrote and published my first nonfiction eBook in March 2010. Since then, I’ve written and publish 7 other books, including one novel. And it’s only since mid-2016 that things have finally started to take off for me.
This year, I’ve written and published more books than I ever have before. This year, I had 2 of my books hit #1 in multiple categories over multiple days on Amazon. This year, I’ve started making real money from my books, anywhere from $400 to $1,000+ per month, and growing.
But I had 8 years online and another 7 years before that learning and training and practicing and working toward the moment when I would hit a tipping point and my writing career would finally take off.
It happened this year.
And if it happened for me, it can and will happen for you. But you’ve gotta give up the idea that it’s gonna happen fast. It’s not. It’s gonna happen when it happens.
For now, you need to keep going and do whatever you can to create good writing habits, get in alignment with the goals you have, and be as consistent as possible. Because it’s in the consistency over an extended period of time where results really come from.
When you look at the stories of successful people, you’ll see it wasn’t just one thing that got them where they are today. They didn’t find a magic bullet that changed everything.
No, it was all about the daily habits and actions they took, over years and years of their lives, that got them where they are today.
Because that’s what it takes. Daily: Consistency. Commitment. A never-give-up attitude. And some serious elbow grease.
So, again, I ask you: are you in it for the long-haul?
Are you willing to stick with it and do whatever it takes?
Even if it looks like it’s not working?
Even if it looks like it’s never going to happen?
Even if there’s barely a shred of hope left inside you?
Did you answer “yes” to those questions? If you did, congratulations. You’re gonna make it. You’ve got what it takes.
And yeah, it is gonna take time. Some days it’ll feel impossible. Other days it will feel easy like Sunday morning.
But every day you show up will feel worth it. And eventually that worth-it feeling will grow into more than just a feeling. It will grow into an actual writing career where you get paid to write and put your words out into the world.
Because you can’t not get where you want to go if you show up every day and keep going no matter what. It’s literally impossible.
It might take blood, sweat, tears and time, but it will happen. That much you can count on.
And whenever you find yourself freaking out, panicking or worried that it’s all for nothing, I leave you with one of my all-time favorite quotes, from the book, A Course In Miracles:
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”
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