Transformation is a continual process of letting go”–Holistic MBA
When I was in first grade, I got punched in the stomach by a second grader while waiting for the bus to school. It happened on the front porch of my babysitter’s house, a place where I was supposed to feel safe.
Worse off, when I told the babysitter what happened, she didn’t believe me, because the second grader played innocent and said I was lying.
That day I created two “stories” about myself:
- I’m not good enough
- No one likes me
These “stories” turned into deeply-rooted beliefs that I held about myself. These beliefs became my identity and how I showed up in the world.
I was bullied on and off my entire life, by people in school; by family members; by the people I worked for. And all along I kept telling myself “I’m not good enough” and “no one likes me.”
I slowly went from being an extroverted person to being an introverted person. I figured if I shrunk low enough and hid away, no one would see me, and then I wouldn’t have to worry about not being liked.
The years went on and I attracted more and more things that made me feel “not good enough” and that “no one liked me.” Things like no one showing up to my birthday party; not getting an internship at a big magazine in NYC; and never getting to date the guy I ‘really wanted’ all made me feel inadequate and disliked.
I was living into the stories I made up about myself when I was six years old. The stories had become my reality.
Of course all of this was going on subconsciously in my life. And it wasn’t until recently when I finally realized that my whole life went the way it did because I created beliefs about myself that were false, but I lived with them like they were true.
What I’ve been doing the last two decades is letting a six-year old run my life (and now my business!) I’ve been living with beliefs that were given to me by a scared little girl who just wanted people to like her.
And while having those beliefs served a purpose at one time (to keep me safe), they no longer serve me today. Today, holding onto those beliefs is holding me back–in life and in my business.
So I am choosing to let them go.
Disillusioned In Life
It’s so easy to get disillusioned by the world around us. We see updates on Facebook about our friends’ successes or we watch celebrities or the people we admire most have these big, beautiful, amazing lives and we think to ourselves: “what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I have what they have?”
What we have to keep in mind is that what we see on the outside, what people show us, is just one facet of things. We’re not seeing below the surface.
And so we’re comparing ourselves and our lives to the shining moments in the lives of others, without realizing that they have a dark side too.
Every single person on this planet has fears. Everyone feels afraid. Everyone has doubts and worries. We all have beliefs we’re holding onto that are no longer true for us.
Even those people you admire who have amazing lives still deal with negative things. They don’t have perfect lives. It only looks like they do.
So it’s easy to get disillusioned and to think everyone else is so much better than you and that you might as well give up now. What’s not easy is choosing the opposite road.
The Road Less Traveled
Right now you have a writing dream inside you. That dream is being held back by false beliefs that you’re holding about yourself.
You can choose to continue living life as you are. Ignoring your writing dream, procrastinating and never working toward that novel you want to write (and publish).
Or you can take the road less traveled and face those false beliefs–acknowledge you have them and that you no longer need them–and let them go, so you can finally go after your dream.
The choice is up to you.
Share With Us
What false beliefs are you holding (or have held) about yourself? Are you ready to face ’em and let ’em go?