This Is Why You Need Like-Minded Friends That You Connect With Regularly

Several months ago, my good friend, Mary DeRosa Hughes, and I decided to be each other’s accountability buddies. It totally made sense–we’re both writers and authors, we both have big dreams that we’re taking action on daily, and we both think very similarly.

Most importantly, she gets me. She gets the way I think and she gets the whole law of attraction thing. She’s one of the few people in my life I can go to and say the most outrageous things, like, “I’m gonna get my novel turned into a movie on the big-screen and famous actors will play my characters and I’ll make a cameo” and she won’t even blink an eye. She’ll just say, “Of course you will! You always do what you say you will.”

She agrees with me. She believes with me. And she pushes me to go bigger and think differently. She’s by far the best accountability buddy I’ve ever had.

And one thing we’ve recently started to do together is co-create our realities.

You probably know that you create your own reality, but did you know that you can also co-create a reality with someone else? You totally can!

You just have to be on the same page and you have to think the same.

Something that Mary and I co-created–unintentionally at first, but over time we began to intentionally reinforce it–is that our conversations make us money. Any time we have a phone call or text each other, one of us gets a Divine Download or inspired action that ends up resulting in money for one or both of us.

The more we say this to each other, the more we continue to reinforce it. Our conversations make us money.

This became a belief that we now both share, so when it happens, it doesn’t at all surprise us. In fact, it’s now totally normal for us to get inspired during our conversations and have that turn into $$$.

It happened again the other day, with something I’d been thinking about, but hadn’t acted on yet.

Mary and I were doing our Monday check in call where we share how things were going and what we’re currently working on that we need support with. And as she shared what’s been going on for her, it hit me: I need to do a workshop for writers on how to manifest.

And as we talked back and forth about it and swapped stories of times when we’d experienced similar things in our lives, I literally had the entire outline for the workshop come to me. So I wrote it all down as we were talking.

At the end of our call, I said to her, “it really is true that our conversations make us money. I just came up with a killer outline for a manifestation workshop I’ve been wanting to do.”

She laughed and said, of course! Because that is a belief that the two of us co-created. So of course that’s what is now true for us.

Belief is EVERYTHING when it comes to creating your reality and manifesting whatever it is you want in your life. And while it does take time to reprogram your beliefs and create new ones that support you in what you want to achieve in your life, if you just keep repeating the new belief(s) over and over again, eventually it will become true and you will see evidence of it in your reality.

Because a belief is just a thought you keep thinking.

So over the last few months as Mary and I have done our weekly check in calls and/or email check ins and texting each other throughout the day, we’ve managed to co-create a belief that our conversations make us money. And now it’s true.

I’m gonna be launching a manifestation workshop for writers very, very soon (hint: it’s launching later this week!!). And that workshop came directly from my conversation with Mary.

If you don’t already have a like-minded accountability buddy who you check in with on a regular basis, I highly recommend you get one. You don’t have to co-create beliefs like, our conversations make us money, but you could.

I mean, why the hell not, right?! But regardless of what you decide to create, I hope you’ll take on the challenge of finding yourself an accountability buddy, one who gets you and who wants similar things to you and who thinks like you do.

There’s nothing better in the world than to be supported by someone who gets it.

Dream life or bust,



#DreamLifeOrBust #DailyThinkDifferent

P.S. YES! It’s true! I actually am doing a manifestation workshop specifically for writers. I’ve thought about this for a loooonnnngggg time now. Probably longer than I should have. And now I’m gonna act on it. If you’re interested in learning how to manifest your writing goals and dreams and whatever the fuck else you want, stay tuned…

I’m Starting A Motherfucking Writing Revolution: You Want In?

There are two kinds of writers out there: the ones who do the work and see the results and the ones who don’t. 

Which one are you?

You’ll know the answer right away. And the answer’s not, “it’s complicated.”

Because it’s not.

You either do the work and get the results. Or you don’t. 

I say this to myself as much as I say it to you, because I don’t always do the work. Sometimes I sit on my ass and watch Netflix and tell myself I need to do the work, but then it never gets done.

And I go to bed feeling like I failed at being the writer I want to be.

It’s a daily practice, you know? Being the writer you want to be.

You have to recommit to it every day. You have to intend it. And then you have to act from that place. 

My mentor told me a few weeks ago that success is a daily practice. And it’s now sinking in that it’s true for any kind of success (she was referring to business success).

It plays majorly into being successful as a writer and as an author.

I’ve been feeling serious Resistance these last few days as I’ve begun living my life from the place I want to be (and ignoring my reality–super hard to do this, by the way!).

Because while there’s a huge part of me that wants the success I dream of, there’s another part of me that wants to be fucking lazy. (Maybe you can relate?)

And sometimes that part of me does win. I’m not perfect and I never will be. So all I  can ever do is just catch myself as quick as I can whenever I fall off, and then recommit to being the author and writer I want to be.

The writer and author I want to be:

  • Writes and publishes one eBook a month
  • Writes and publishes two novels a year (one a year, bare minimum)
  • Has a ginormous fanbase with millions of readers all over the world who buy my books, write five-star reviews and share with their friends
  • Gets featured in the media, in and out of the writing industry, on a regular basis
  • Blogs on a daily basis and writes at least 2-3 guest posts a week
  • Produces a shit-ton of content–blog posts, guest posts, social media content, worksheets, trainings, etc.
  • Doesn’t let excuses get in the way, not ever (you’ll never stop making excuses, it’s part of being human. But you can make your excuses and then do the work anyway)
  • Has complete and total freedom of time and location

What kind of writer and author do you want to be? Grab your journal and make a list of all the qualities the writer and author you want to be would possess. And then figure out who you’d need to BE, to show up in the world as the author and writer from your list.

In order for me to be this author, the one who lives up to the stuff  listed out, I know I’m gonna need some major accountability. And for me, accountability is teaching others through example. It’s publicly sharing my goals so that I can’t not hit them.

That works for me.

Which is a big part of the reason I started the Students of Story community and membership site. Because I needed to force myself to be accountable to doing the work and getting my writing done.

It’s SO easy to slack off when you have no one holding your feet to the fire. And it’s even harder to hold your own feet to the fire (though I’m getting much better at that as the days go on).

For me, leading helps me stay accountable and stay motivated.

So I’m leading. I’m leading a motherfucking writing revolution.

I’m so sick of seeing writers complaining about not having time and life getting in the way and just that oh-whoa-is-me bullshit that they tell themselves about why they didn’t show up and do the work. I see my old self in so much of it and it makes me feel sick.

Because I was totally fucking pathetic.

There was a time in my writing journey where I would go so far out of my way to avoid doing the work it’s insane. And there was one Saturday I’ll never forget.

I had the whole day free and open. I was going to work on my novel. Finally.

But first I had to clean the apartment, do all of my laundry and wash the dishes.

So I did all of that.

My apartment was clean and organized. The laundry was washed, dried and put away. And for once, there were no dishes in the sink.

I grabbed my laptop. Sat down on the couch in front of my coffee table. Opened up my novel draft Word doc (this was back in 2008, I now use Scrivener), laid my fingers on the keys and then…

I decided I just HAD to clean the bathroom floor. On my hands and knees. With a sponge.

Yes. Seriously.

And I HATE cleaning.

In that moment as I scrubbed away on the floor, I knew. It was now or never. It was step up and do the work… or quit.

So I stepped up and I did the work.

That work paid off for me (FINALLY!) in June 2015 when I published my debut novel, SoundCheck.

And since then, I’ve done pretty good. Even wrote another novel that I’m about to start revising.

But I haven’t been the writer and author I want to be.

I’ve been coasting. Living on the high from getting SoundCheck out there.

And, well, that high is wearing off.

I’m coming down and realizing that I may have a published novel, but I’m far from the writer and author I dream of being.

And so now, like that moment on the floor of the bathroom, I come to the edge.

I’m standing on one side of the cliff, exactly where I am with my writing right now, and then there’s a giant black gap with a hole so deep you can’t see into it. And on the other side of the gap is being the author and writer I want to be and all the stuff that goes with it.

Now I have to choose… do I make the leap and be the writer and author I want to be? Or do I stay where I am, in my comfort zone, and just be OK with the mediocre progress I’m making?

I’m choosing to jump. To leap and not worry about the hows or the what ifs. To just let the net appear as I make my way back down to the ground. 

I’m choosing to believe that the Universe will not only catch me, but will show up for me and support me in reaching my dreams. As long as I keep going and don’t give up (which I never will).

So, what do you choose? 

Right now you’re standing on the edge of the writer you are today. There’s a giant gap and on the other side is the writer and author you dream of being.

You can choose, right now, in this moment, to BE that writer and author. To make the leap and let the pieces land where they may.

If you’re really ready to give up the bullshit, drop the excuses and BE the writer and author you dream of being, I have something freaking awesome for you.

It’s so awesome it’s going to kick your ass and make you step up and BE that writer. Every single day, until you reach your dream.

Because all you have is right now. The past is over and the future isn’t here yet.

The time to be the writer and author you dream of being is right NOW.

Not tomorrow.

Not next week or next month or next year.


Are you going to make the leap?

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Two Ideas For Motivating Yourself To Write

I’m always looking for creative ways to motivate, or “trick” myself into sitting down and writing. In the last few days, I’ve learned of and come up with some ideas that I think are worth trying. Here are two ideas to get you started:

  • Write a check to someone you hate–my creative writing professor said that when he was in desperate need of finishing one of his books, he motivated himself in an extreme, but helpful, way. He got out his check book and wrote a $1,000 check to a person that he hates more than anything. Then, he gave the check to one of his good friends and told them “If I don’t have my book finished by January 1, I want you to give this to the person and tell them to cash it.” Although pretty extreme, the idea of losing $1,000–and having it go to someone you hate–is a pretty good motivational tool to get your writing done.
  • Pretend like you’re already done with it–last night while I was sitting on the couch watching Jimmy Kimmel Live and not writing, I had a moment of inspiration. I thought, wouldn’t it be cool if I just made a book cover for the book I’m trying to write and then used it to cover up one of the books I own? So I did just that. I made a mock cover for the book I’m trying to write, then I cut it apart and taped it over one of my Stephen King books, making it look like I wrote the book. Then I placed it on my coffee table so that I could look at it all the time. I figured seeing my name “in print” would make me more likely to sit down and actually write the book.

So take a few minutes this weekend and try one of these motivational tactics out. Which one motivated you the most? And how much writing did you get done because of it? Got any motivational ideas of your own? Drop me a line and let me know!