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I Sometimes Wonder Why More People Don’t Finally Choose To Wake The Fuck Up And Live

As I write this I’m sitting at a table in the corner of the Starbucks down the street from the place I’m staying right now. To the left of me are two people–a guy and a girl–sitting with their Teavana drinks and talking about work stuff.

They clearly work in an office and are likely on a team of some kind together. The guy is talking animatedly, making his pitch for why they need to move in this specific direction with their project.

The woman seems to be there. She’s looking the guy in the eyes as he talks, she’s nodding at everything he says and she’s even throwing in a, “uh-huh” and “yep” every now and again. All signs point to she’s paying attention.

Except her posture and the emotion on her face. Her posture says this is the last place I want to be right now. And her face says my eyes are looking at you, but I’m really imagining myself thousands of miles away, swimming in the tropical waters of the next vacation I plan on taking when I have enough vacation time built up.

So essentially her body is present, but her mind is elsewhere.

And the sad thing is, this is life for many people. They’re constantly going through the motions but their minds are never present, because they’re always day-dreaming.

Dreaming about that thing they really want to be doing. That creative thing. The one that calls to them from somewhere deep inside. The one they keep pushing away by numbly going through the motions in their daily lives and telling themselves that it just is what it is.

Most people don’t believe they’re meant for greatness. And many that do still don’t believe it’s actually possible for them to achieve it.

So they settle. They call the reality they see around them currently their life and they plant roots by buying a house they don’t really want (’cause what they really want is to be off traveling the world), working a job that makes their soul feel dead (’cause doing anything but your soulwork will always make you feel that way), and numbing out with food and TV and alcohol and whatever else they do instead of doing the thing they really want to be doing. They just give up on their lives being any better, so they go through the motions that they’re told they should be going through each day–get up, go to work, come home, cook dinner, clean up your house, watch TV, go to bed, do it all over again–and wait to die.

Now we’re obviously all dying, and since we’re not vampires in Twilight, we all get closer to it every day. But it’s what we do with the days inbetween the day we’re born and the day we die that actually matter.

And sadly, most people are not really living.

Most people are on autopilot, going through the motions, ignoring the stuff they feel inside them and numbing out. Because they think this is just how it is. Because they’ve been told that this just how it is.

Because they choose to believe that this is just how it is.

But you don’t have to fall for that bullshit. You can choose, right now, to wake up and LIVE.

You can choose to never live another day on autopilot. You can choose to never again have a conversation with someone where you’re nodding and pretending to listen to what they’re saying when you’re really daydreaming about the life you really want to live.

You can choose to go let go of a life of complaining about how bad things are and how much things suck for you, and step into a life of gratitude and freedom.

A life that you love. A life that feels like a dream. A life where you get to wake up every day, do the things you love doing and get paid to be you.

You can create a life where you have it all (however you define “it all”) and all on your terms.

That was a belief I took on as a young child… that I could live a life that where I have it all and on my terms. And that belief is what has allowed me to create the life I’m living right now.

A life where I get to choose. How I spend my time. What I do all day. The projects I work on and who I work on them with. How I work, when I work and where I work.

I no longer feel like a victim in my life. Because I’m choosing everything now, intentionally, instead of living on default, like I used to when I was still working my soul-sucking corporate job.

Back then I was just like this woman sitting to the left of me, doing stuff I didn’t really care about, spending 8+ hours a day adding value to someone else’s business while the dreams I had were slowly dying inside me, complaining all day (and night) because life is so unfair and that was not how I wanted to be living.

Until I finally decided to take back control.

There’s a misconception that just because you have a dream means you’ll eventually live it. Not true.

I had a dream and felt on every level of my being that it was meant for me, but that didn’t mean I was gonna live it. And the same goes for you.

You may have big dreams inside you (and I know you do ’cause you wouldn’t be here right now if you didn’t), but that doesn’t mean you’ll ever get to live them.

Not if you continue to live a life of default where you just look at the reality around you and call it “your life” and then spend your days reacting, by default, to the things that happen to and around you. Default living will never get you to your dream life.

Your dream life is absolutely and totally out there and available to you and possible for you. But it’s not just gonna magically show up one day.

You have to go out there and create it. You have to take action, daily, with intention and purpose.

You have to decide that you’re no longer gonna hit the “snooze” button on your life. You have to decide that you’re gonna wake the fuck up and LIVE. Right now.

You have to decide that your dreams and the stuff you hear and feel inside you is what you’re meant to be doing and spending your time on. No matter how unrealistic or illogical that stuff may seem.

It wasn’t realistic OR logical for me to quit my $70k+ a year corporate social media strategist job five years ago to pursue a calling I felt in my heart to be a full-time writer, entrepreneur and creator. It was actually a pretty stupid decision in most people’s minds.

Why would you ever leave a job that paid so much to go and do god only knows what and have no idea where your money will come from? That was the question on most minds when I told people what I was doing.

Without a plan. Without a savings account. Without knowing what would happen next. I just jumped and believed it would work out.

I just decided to WAKE UP AND LIVE.

Now your version of waking up and living may look totally different than mine. For you, waking up and living might mean finally calling yourself a writer and allowing yourself to put words on the page or hit “publish” on that book you’ve been revising for years. Or it may be something else completely.

The point isn’t what you do when you finally decide to wake up and live, it’s that you finally decide to wake up and live and then actually go and do it.

I get to live my dream life every single day now, because of the decision I made 5+ years ago that I was no longer gonna settle for anything less than my dream life.

It hasn’t been an easy road, I’ve had a lot of setbacks and struggle moments and times when I thought I made the biggest mistake of my life and should just go back. But I didn’t. I stuck with it and I stayed the course.

And I still am.

Because living your dream life is not a destination. You’re not ever gonna get to a point where you’re done and you can just hang up your hat and retire. Living your dream life is a constantly evolving and up-leveling and shifting journey.

A journey that starts with a decision to finally wake up and live.

Dream life or bust,

 

 

 

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The Side of Success You’re Most Likely Ignoring

I spend a lot of time with creative people—both online and in person—and one of the commonalities I find is this: struggle.
 
Creative people, for the most part, have a belief that being successful as an artist and creator is a struggle. That it has to be hard.
 
And that’s why, for so many creatives, it is. It’s a struggle and it’s hard.
 
No one is paying attention. No one is interested. No one is buying.
 
Those are the complaints I hear creative people speaking on a regular basis. But here’s the problem… and it’s two-fold.
 
First, so what? You either want it or you don’t. You’re either in it for the long-haul or you’re not. If you’re not, or if you have a backup plan, you might as well call it quits now. And if you are, then shut up and do the work.
 
Being creative is awesome and it’s the thing that drives us, but it’s not enough. You can’t just be creative. You also have to learn the business side of being a creative.
 
At least if you intend on making a living out of it.
 
If you don’t want to make a living out of it, that’s fine too. No one says you have to be a professional creative. But you wouldn’t be reading this post right now if you just wanted a side project.
 
You’re reading it because you want to make a living from your creative gifts. Because you need to. There’s this nagging pull inside you that says this is the only thing you can ever really do with your life.
 
Sure, you may try to do other things to keep yourself a float, but you always come back to the creative stuff. That’s the stuff that drives you. It’s the stuff that makes you get out of bed in the morning.
 
And making it your full-time thing is a dream you’ve had, pretty much forever.
 
So you grind and you struggle and you do the work. Sometimes. Other times you get caught up in your current reality that says it’s not working. Nothing is happening. You just keep getting rejected or hitting dead-ends.
 
And so you don’t bother to do the work. You stop being consistent and you stop caring. No one else does, so why the hell should you?
 
But then you look around you and see all these other creative people making it happen. Many of them you’d consider to be a lot less talented than you are. And it drives you insane!! Because you just keep thinking… that should be me.
 
I should be the one with the deal. I’m the one who should be featured in front of the masses. I’m the one who should be quitting my job to go full-time with my creative life.
 
Yet it’s happening for others, but not for me.
 
Then you start to tell yourself the same ‘old stories… they must be lucky. They must have rich parents who paid their way. Life is working against me. Maybe I’m just kidding myself. I must be doing something wrong. I must not deserve it. I must not have worked hard enough yet or struggled for long enough yet.
 
And it goes on like this for years.
 
When you start to build up some consistency and are starting to see little hints of success, you suddenly sabotage it by continuing to look around and declare that it’s not working and then you stop being consistent and doing the work… because no one is paying attention, no one is buying anything, and it’s not working anyhow.
 
It’s tough, this being a creative, thing.
 
But what if there was a better way? What if there was a way to guarantee your success?
 
This brings me to the second part of the two-fold problem with creatives: there’s a side of creating success that you don’t know about (or maybe you do know about it, but you’re not paying it any attention).
 
The metaphysical side.
 
And not knowing about—or paying attention to—this side of creating success is the reason why you’re not seeing the results you want yet or why things feel like such a fucking struggle.

The metaphysical side is the stuff you can’t always see, but that are in play 24/7/365: your mindset. Your beliefs. Your habits. Your consistency. Your commitment to doing the things that matter, every single day, no excuses (even when you don’t feel like it and even when you think it’s not working). Your willingness to do battle with creative Resistance and doubt and fear and self-sabotage, and finding a way to push through and keep going anyhow.

The truth is, THIS is the stuff that matters the MOST when it comes to creating success. Yes, you have to do the physical actions part. Without that nothing works.
 
And yeah, you could choose to do the creative thing only paying attention to the physical reality that you see around you to give you direction and tell you what to do next.
 
But you’d be choosing struggle. You’d be choosing difficulty. You’d be choosing lack and limitation.
 
And there will always be a better way. A better way that is totally in your control and that you can design and create EXACTLY how you want it to be.
 
You’ll still work your ass off. There’s no way around that.
 
But it won’t feel hard. And it won’t be a struggle. Everything will just happen with ease and flow, like it’s naturally supposed to.
 
The truth is creative humans fuck it up for themselves, because we get in our own way so damn much. And then we’re too damn stubborn to throw in the towel on struggle and choose the easier path, because we’ve been programmed to believe that the creative path is struggle.
 
So even though the easy path looks so good and sounds so good, we can’t bring ourselves to choose it, because we’ve convinced ourselves doing that would mean we didn’t really earn it.
 
Creatives are a stubborn bunch.
 
I used to think and feel the exact same way. Used to procrastinate and tell myself that’s just how it is. Used to be inconsistent with my writing and my marketing and I’d just blame it on my job at the time or make excuses about life getting in the way.
 
And I even accepted all of the bullshit stories and told myself that it was OK.
 
Until I finally woke up one day and decided, you know what, I don’t want to struggle anymore. I don’t want to hold myself back anymore. I don’t want to have the same shitty, mediocre existence that so many other creatives have because they’re continuing to tell themselves bullshit stories about “what’s true for them” and refusing to choose the easy path.
 
I committed myself to the easy path. To a life where I get to be me and write and create what i want to, all day, every day, AND get paid for it.
 
Committing to the easy path and choosing to give up struggle didn’t come with a silver platter. It came with a massive responsibility.
 
To show up every day. Even when I don’t feel like it. To work on my mindset. DAILY. To create daily habits that support my success. To be consistent. To put first things first. To be disciplined enough to do what matters, every single day, even if that means sacrificing other things. And to no longer accept excuses from myself.
 
It’s a lot of work to be successful. But it doesn’t have to be hard.
 
So you can continue to tell yourself that it’s a struggle and that you just have to keep on manipulating things in your physical reality to try and make something work (UGH!! It’s SO HARD!!!)
 
Or you can choose to tend to the metaphysical side of creating success, and deal with your inner bullshit—the patterns and the BS stories you’re still telling yourself about who you are or how the world works—and figure out what actually matters and actually moves the needle in your creative work and commit to doing that stuff first things first, every single day, before you do anything else.

Commitment, consistency, doing what matters, putting first things first, creating habits around the most important stuff, and daily mindset work… that’s what it takes to be a successful creative on the easy path.

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