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Doing the Wrong Things Will Drain You

So often people ask me how I’m able to get so much done in a single day. If you’ve been in my world for any amount of time you know at least one thing about me–that I’m a super high achiever and always have a million balls in the air all at once.

I’m cool with this. After years of fighting against it and trying to talk myself out of being this busy, I finally gave in and realized that I should do what feels right for me and screw what anyone else thinks.

I’m not saying it’s easy to do all that I do or handle all that I handle. It’s not. I feel overwhelmed at times. But then I take a deep breath and dive back in.

I get warned about burnout all the time. I’ve been hearing, “you take on too much” my entire life. And I totally respect people’s opinion and concern for me. I appreciate it.

But I don’t believe in burnout.

Gasp! Did she just say she doesn’t believe in burn out? But what about this example or this example or this one of people burning out?

I’m not saying burnout doesn’t happen. It does. But only when you’re not in alignment and living on purpose.

Back when I was working my corporate day job, I was burned the fuck out. I hated my life. I was stressed all day long, I spent hours of my time complaining, it was hell. Keeping that charade up any longer than I did would’ve burned me out and totally killed my soul.

Which is why I got out.

It’s why I started focusing all of my time on doing things I actually cared about and that mattered to me. It’s why I sit here right now, in the middle of the day, writing this blog post, feeling totally motivated and focused and ready for more.

Because when you give your time and focus to the things you actually care about and that actually matter to you, there’s no possible way you can burn out. Doing what you love and what you care about FUELS YOUR SOUL.

It fuels you with motivation and excitement and joy. Who can get enough of that?

Or here’s a better question, who’s getting enough of that right now? Not many people.

There are days where I forget to eat until dinner time. I wake up, get into my morning routine and before I know it the clock says 4 p.m. and my stomach is growling. There are nights I stay up ’til 3 a.m. because I’m so in flow with my writing and creating I couldn’t possibly even consider sleeping yet.

And there’s no way to burn out on the things that fuel your soul, which means you can do them forever and never ever stop or want to stop. I will be a writer ’til the day I die. I will be taking my final breath and I’ll still be on my MacBook trying to get my last words written down.

It’s impossible to burn out on the things that bring you to life.

So the question all of this brings me to, is this… are you doing what really matters to you?

Right now, if you look at your life, are you doing the things that matter? Do you go to bed at night feeling like you gave it your all?

If you don’t, there’s a high probability that you’re not doing what matters. And that’s why you feel burned out or have low energy or are unmotivated.

Because spending your time doing the wrong things will DRAIN YOU.

It will make you resentful. It will kill your will to live. It will BURN YOU OUT. Eventually you’ll be a robot-human, living life on autopilot, and numbing out with food and TV and sleeping too much.

When I finish my morning routine, it’s usually midday and I feel motivated, ready to take on more and like I have all the time in the world. Because I’ve already done my soul work for the day. I’ve already done what needed to be done.

Everything else that gets done is just a bonus after that.

So take some time to really think about whether or not you’re really spending your time doing what matters to you. If you’re not, it’s time for a reality check, because burn out could be in your future if you don’t start doing what you actually care about.

I never worry about burn out becuase I know I can never burn out on being me and doing what I love.

Write with a purpose, live with intention,

 

 

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Know What Matters. Do It Daily. Repeat.

Do you know what really matters in your writing life? What those key activities are that will actually move the needle in the direction of your dreams?

Or are you just doing random stuff here and there, hoping you’ll eventually get where you want to go?

I totally feel you if you’re still not sure what actually matters. For a long time, I didn’t know either. So I spent my day focused on stuff like interacting with people on Facebook and writing blog posts without a call to action and working on client stories, but rarely my own.

And I’d make excuses, like, client stuff is what really matters, my stuff will have to wait, or I’d avoid doing the writing by getting buried in Facebook posts.

Operating from that place every day—that place of being busy but not actually getting anything that matters done—is a recipe for staying stuck and stagnant.

Someone once said that some people live 90 years, and other people live one year 90 times. Think about that one.

That quote really woke me up and made me see that I’d been living the same year over and over again where my writing was concerned. Yes, I was working on stuff and even making some progress, but for years I was in pretty much the same place every December that I’d been in January.

I felt stuck and stagnant. I couldn’t understand how I’d been at this for so long and yet had made so little progress (or so it seemed to me, others would likely disagree). But then I finally figured it out.

I hadn’t been doing what really mattered. 

Now what really matters is subjective and based on the person in question. So what matters for you may not matter for me, and vice versa.

When you’re figuring out what matters, don’t base it on what you think should matter or what others tell you matters, base it on what actually does matter, to you.

Example, if you’re fine with your body and exercise doesn’t matter to you, then don’t do it. Just because others say exercise matters or you think it should matter to you (even though it doesn’t), doesn’t meant it actually matters. It’s about what matters to you.

If writing matters to you, then that’s (one of) the things you should be focusing on daily. Anything worth doing—anything that matters—is worth doing daily. 

Once I actually figured out what mattered to me and what moves the needle in my writing life and business, that’s the stuff I committed to doing daily, first things first. That includes things like, mindset work and journaling, writing a blog post, working on my fiction (and other writing projects), tracking my book sales numbers and income, and doing visibility and promotional activities.

That is the stuff that moves the needle for me. When I’m not doing that stuff every day—and especially when I’m not doing my fiction and writing projects daily—everything else falls apart in my life. Nothing goes right. I’m resentful of everything.

But when I do what matters and do it daily, that’s when everything in my life flows and happens with ease. I feel great and I’m happy. Best of all, I’m making consistent progress and actually finishing what I start.

And that’s why you have to do what matters and do it daily.

How do you know what matters? Journal on it. Ask yourself, “what activities, if I did them daily, would totally transform my life a year from now?” Commit to doing those activities every day. Report back. 

Write with a purpose, live with intention,

 

 

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Life Will Get In the Way–Accept It and Keep Going Anyhow

So on Wednesday, the city where I live had a horrific wind storm. It was almost tornado-like. They were warning people to stay off the roads and there was stuff blowing around everywhere.

And, of course, we lost power. About 100,000+ people currently have no power, including myself. It’s been more than 2 days at this point, and it could be a couple more before we see power again at my apartment.

Worst of all, we lost all the food in our fridge, and we don’t have any internet (that’s the worst of all for me… I need my internet!).

Not to mention it’s winter, and without power… it’s also FREEZING. (And the craziest part of all is that my apartment also lost power last Wednesday thanks to another wind storm… but last week we were the only ones who lost it, so they had it back up within 12 hours. This time… not so much.)

Suffice to say, life got in the way yesterday. So even though I tried my best to get my usual first things first stuff done, it just didn’t happen. I did manage to get my journaling and mindset work done, and I took care of my health stuff.

But my blog didn’t get written in the morning. And even if it did, I didn’t have internet access to be able to post it and share it around on social. And I also didn’t do the other daily activities that I need internet for (I even had to reschedule a training with my group because livestreaming requires a strong internet connection and my LTE couldn’t handle the load).

And here’s the thing… this is gonna happen.

Life will get in the way. Life chaos will happen. Some days you’ll wake up and feel totally out of control and nothing will go right.

It happens.

But even still, there are no excuses. No reasons good enough to stop doing what matters every day.

So even if you have an off day where things just don’t work out or don’t go right, that doesn’t mean every day has to turn into that.

Get back to it. Immediately. As soon as you can.

Last night I wrote my post. It wasn’t as good as what I usually write, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is I did it. I got it done. I made it happen.

Success is built on the back of getting the things that matter done every single day.

And when you can’t get the things that matter done, you do the best you can with what you’ve got in the moment, and you get back to it as soon as you possibly can.

My brother’s house has power and internet, so me, my hubs and our poodle moved ourselves here for a couple days. Last night I forced myself to go to bed early so I could get up super early this morning and get back on track.

It’s not easy to be in someone else’s space and continue on with your usual routine. I’d still call this life getting in the way.

But I refuse to stop or be stopped. By anyone or anything.

And so on I continue.

Even though I’m not in my usual comfort zone. Even though my daily routine is a bit off thanks to not being at home. Even though I’ve had a seriously shitty week and just want to call it a wash and be lazy for the rest of the weekend.

But I push on.

Because I have a vision. I have goals. I have a mission. And I will get there. No matter what.

So I allow myself to have an off day, because that’s gonna happen sometimes. There’s no way around it.

BUT I don’t allow myself to use an off day as a reason to have an off week or an off month. I deal with life as it comes, do the best I can, and get back to my usual do what matters first things first routine as soon as I possibly can.

Because that’s what it takes.

Success is daily practice. And what really matters isn’t what you do on occasion or every now and then. What really matters is what you do every day.

If you don’t have the success you desire, I’d take a good hard look at your daily habits and morning routine. That’s the starting point to getting yourself aligned with where you want to go.

You must set yourself up for success every day.

And on the days when that doesn’t happen, don’t place blame, don’t make excuses, don’t give up. Just deal with what’s happening and get back to it the next day.

Because anything worth doing is worth doing daily.

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