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See It In Your Mind, Feel It In Your Being and The Universe Will Deliver It to You

About six months ago I found out that I’m moving to Austin this summer. My husband is in a band and they all decided that it was time to get serious about being full-time musicians and that we needed to live somewhere much more condusive to that goal.

I immediately got on board and decided that I’d be totally cool with moving if I could have everything I want… an apartment with upgraded features, like hardwood floors and granite counter tops; cool amenities like a pool, a gym and a place where I could go write every day; living close to water; having a city view; and being walking distance to cool stuff, like coffee shops, restaurants and bars.

A pretty tall order. But I was set on it. So I started to visualize myself living that exact experience.

Every day for the last six months I’d write all about what I wanted in my journal. And then during my visualization practice I’d imagine me and my husband and dog living that life. I’d see myself getting up in the morning, taking the dog for a walk around the lake, then going home to do my mindset practice before packing up my laptop to head to the apartment common area so I could work on my daily blog post, fiction writing and all the other things I work on every day. I’d see myself finishing my morning work and then going to the gym or swimming laps in the pool, before heading back to my apartment for a shower and lunch.

I’d imagine this scenario over and over again every day. Some days I’d actually walk myeslf through that exact routine in my mind as I visualized. Other days I’d just spend time feeling the emotions of having everything I want right now.

I did this daily for six months straight.

Then this week, my husband and I took our dog on a road trip to Austin to check things out and do some apartment hunting. Before we left we researched a bunch of places we wanted to see and that we thought looked like a good place to live.

Then the other day we drove to all of the apartments we found online to take a look, including one that we had an appointment scheduled at. Everything we saw was OK, but it wasn’t quite what we really wanted.

And then something magical happened…

We were driving out of the apartment complex we just finished visiting, got turned around somehow in the parking lot and ended up going out the wrong exit. And that exit led to a street we’d hadn’t been on yet. While we tried to figure out where we were, we both noticed an apartment complex we hadn’t seen online.

Something about it just looked right. You could feel the positive vibes just by looking at it. So we pulled into the parking lot and went into the leasing office to ask some questions and check things out.

And not only did this apartment complex have all of the features and amenities I wanted (including in-apartment laundry!!), but it was also a 10-minute walk from the lake and a 10-minute drive into downtown.

Not only that, but you can see a view of the city from the parking lot. AND there’s a Starbucks within walking distance where I can go work every day if I want to.

It felt totally meant to be, especially with the Starbucks being so close, because I’ve always had a secret desire to be able to work at a coffee shop every day.

And that’s when I realized the Universe had delivered everything I’d been visualizing for the past six months. And the crazy part is, I wasn’t even visualizing the Starbucks and yet the Universe still delivered it to me!!

THIS is what it means to create something in your mind, to see it, to visualize it, to feel it like it’s already real (even when it’s not yet) and then to have it manifest in your life.

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have at your disposal to create your life exactly how you want it to be. But you have to use it and you have to be consistent with it and you have to keep on going, even if you’re not seeing the results of it yet.

I spent six months visualizing the life I wanted to create for us in Austin. And now that life is starting to come into reality. I’m more excited about this move than I’ve been about any move I’ve made so far in my life (and I’ve made many–I’ve lived in several places in NY, SoCal and Houston).

The best part is, I totally created it with my mind. That’s where it started. Now it’s actually showing up in my real life. Now I’m able to see it and touch it and hold it in my hands.

And do you want to know something pretty awesome? You can do this same creation process with ANYTHING that you want to create in your life. ANYTHING!!!!

It may not happen overnight and it may take time for it to actually show up in your reality, but if you stick with it and keep going, it will happen.

So, what do you really want right now? Get clear on it, then spend 3-5 minutes a day visualizing it and feeling it as already done, and not long from now it will be.

Write with a purpose, live with intention,

 

 

 

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You Can Create Anything You Want When You Believe You Can (And With This Process…)

A few years ago I decided that I wanted to get front-row parking spots. Now I have no problem parking in the back and walking. Sometimes I park far back, especially on nice days, just to get some more exercise.
 
But I also thought it would be fun to have the option–to know that a front-row spot was available, even if I didn’t want it.
 
So I decided to create a belief that I always get front-row parking spots. Because that’s all it takes to see what you want show up in your reality; you have to believe it.
 
Here’s the breakdown of how I created the belief that I always get front-row parking spots, which is not just a belief I now have, but it has also come true in my life.
 
Anytime I go to the store or out to dinner or whatever, I always get a close spot. Sometimes I don’t take it or I don’t feel like waiting a minute for the person who’s pulling out, so I just park wherever and walk.
 
But the point is, I now have the option. And that came from creating the belief that I always get front-row parking spots.
 
And the cool part is, this process works with ANYTHING that you want, whether it’s front-row parking or a six-figure book deal (I haven’t tried it for that yet, but maybe I will soon!!).
 

1. Decide What You Want

 
The first step to creating anything is knowing what it is that you want. You have to get really clear on it, otherwise you won’t be able to create it exactly as you want it.
 
Grab your journal or notebook and freestyle-write in it for 10-15 minutes, getting really clear on what you want. Dig deep here and write it all out.
 
After you’ve finished, choose one thing that you’re going to start with. Yes, you can install multiple beliefs all at once if you want to, but that can take more time because you’re spreading your focus out.
 
If you choose one new belief to focus on at a time, you can program it into yourself faster and make it show up in your reality faster too.
 
Once you know what the one new belief is that you want to create, write a very specific, concise sentence that feels good to you and that declares the new belief you’re now choosing to create.
 
For example, “I always get front-row parking.” Simple, to the point and powerfully declares what I want.
 
Action Step #1: Get clear on one new belief you’d like to create for yourself. Write a specific, concise belief statement that feels good to you and powerfully declares what you want.
 

2. Tell Yourself How You Want It to Be

 
The next thing I did was started telling myself that I always get front-row spots. When I’d be driving to the store or going out to eat, even on days when I knew it would busy, I’d just tell myself that I always get front-row parking spots.
 
Sometimes I’d get to the store or restaurant and there wouldn’t be any front-row spots. But I’d ignore that, park my car wherever and keep telling myself that I always get front-row parking spots.
 
And sometimes I’d get there and there would be a front-row spot open and waiting for me, or someone would be just about to pull out and if I waited a couple minutes I could have their spot right up front.
 
The most important thing is that you don’t ever look around and say, “it’s not working.” Even when it isn’t working.
 
If I didn’t get a front-row spot, I didn’t say that it wasn’t working, because I knew I was working on it, and that soon it would be working. So I just chose to believe that it was working, even when my physical reality said it wasn’t.
 
Action Step #2: When you’re out and about living your life, tell yourself the new belief over and over again. Say it out loud, say it in your head, write it down every morning in your journaling, repeat it as much and as often as you can (this is why I recommend doing one new belief at a time, because more than that can get overwhelming to keep track of).
 

3. Bring On the Gratitude

 
Whenever I’d get to the store or restaurant and actually got a front-row spot, I’d always say, “thank you Universe!” as I was parking. This is key, because being grateful for what you have brings you more.
 
So anytime your new belief actually works and you see evidence of it in your reality, be sure to acknowledge it and say “thank you Universe.” Acknowledging it means you’re paying attention and putting your focus on it. And whatever you focus on expands.
 
Action Step #3: Say “thank you” in the moment, when your new belief or evidence of your new belief actually shows up in your reality. And also be grateful in general, for all the good things going on in your life. Gratitude is a powerful tool for changing your life.
 

4. See It As Normal

 
Eventually I could feel the belief that I always get front-row parking starting to become the norm for me, meaning I’d go to the store or restaurant and more times than not, there’d be a front-row parking spot. That means I’ve normalized getting front-row parking.
 
And what’s normal for you is what will always show up. Expectation is a huge part of the manifesting process. So once you’ve seen enough evidence of your new belief happening in your real life, it’s time to start accepting that belief is normal for you.
 
Now when I get a front-row spot, I say, “of course! Thank you! More please!” This is a combination of gratitude and expectation.
 
By saying “of course” I’m acknowleding that this is normal for me. Saying “thank you” is bringing gratitude for what I have into the mix, and “more please” is telling the Universe that I want more of that exact thing.
 
“Of course! Thank you! More please!” is how you’ll make your new belief normal for you. (Shout out to my amazing friend and client, Maru Iabichela, who taught this statement to me!)
 
Action Step #4: As you continue to experience your new belief or see evidence of it show up in your life, start to mix into your gratitude statements phrases that acknowledge this new belief is now normal for you. Of course! Thank you! More please!
 

5. Keep Going

 
At this point I’d say the belief that I always get front-row parking is pretty engrained in me. But I still continue to reaffirm it every time I’m parking my car.
 
Because it never hurts to remind yourself how good you have it, and it just continues to program that belief into your subconscious mind.
 
Repetition is everything.
 
Action Step #5: Continue to collect evidence of your new belief and reaffirm it as much as possible.
 
Once you feel like your new belief is programmed enough that it’s now real, you can go through this same process with another new belief that you want to create.
 
Again, you can definitely work on multiple beliefs at one time. I do this every day in my journaling and mindset work when I write out my reality and how I want things to be in every area of my life and business. But I also have a few beliefs I’m actively focused on programming into myself.
 
Because a belief is just a thought you keep thinking. And if you can change the way you’re thinking, then you can change what you believe.
 
Aligning your beliefs with the life and success you dream of having is what’s going to bring it to reality for you.
 
Write with a purpose, live with intention,
 
 
#DailyThinkDifferent #DreamLifeOrBust
 
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Just Feel Good and the Rest Will Take Care of Itself

A life coach that I follow online once posted something on Facebook where she talked about the kinds of music people listen to. She said if your life is awesome and you’re happy, you most likely listen to upbeat, festival-type music that’s peppy and has positive lyrics. But if you’re listening to country music, for example, or music with not so happy lyrics, that could actually be why your life isn’t working as well as it could.

And I get what she was saying with this—that you attract things to your life based on how you think and speak. I agree with that and whole-heartedly believe it and live it.

What I disagreed with is the idea that just because a song has negative lyrics that means listening to it or singing along with it would cause your life to be negative too.

I listen to rock music (mostly from the grunge era), and if you know anything about rock music, the lyrics aren’t exactly peppy. Usually the lyrics are angry or expressing a negative emotion or experience.

But that doesn’t mean my life is negative. The exact opposite, in fact. My life is always better when I’m listening to the music that makes my soul happy.

Grunge rock does that for me. It brings me back to a simpler time in life when I was growing up and falling in love with music for the first time (as I’ve fallen in love with music many times over the years).

That always evokes a happy feeling in me. And singing the words out loud—even negative words—helps me amp that happy feeling up even more.

It has often been said that words have power. And they absolutely do. But where the power really comes from isn’t just from the words being used.

It’s the feeling behind the words. The feeling is what makes the words powerful.

When you say, “I hate you” there’s a feeling behind those words. When you say, “I’m not good enough,” there’s a feeling behind those words. And the feeling that’s behind the words is what really matters.

Because you can say the words, “I’m happy,” but if you’re not actually feeling happy inside, the words don’t have the same power as when you say, “I’m happy,” and actually are. 

The whole thing with law of attraction and manifesting the things you want in your life, is that words matter. But they don’t matter as much as feelings.

Feelings are actually the biggest deciding factor in what manifests. Because feelings create energy—either positive or negative. And energy is what attracts things.

Which means the lyrics of the music you listen to—or the words you speak—only matter if they’re creating a bad feeling in you.

Example… when you’re young and you get your heart broken for the first time, you listen to all those sappy love songs that make you think about the one who got away. That is when music and lyrics are causing negative energy and negative things to manifest. Because your focus is on lack and being not enough and feeling bad.

But if you have a playlist that you love to sing to and that brings a feeling of joy to you, for example, then no matter what the lyrics say, you will feel good. And the feeling good creates good energy that attracts positive things.

This distinction is MASSIVELY important. It could just change your whole life. 

For a long time I worried about the words I was singing out loud as I sang along to my favorite songs. Or the words I’d say by default because of my subconscious programming. But now I know better.

It’s the feelings that matter, not the words. 

And yeah, it’s true that some words just come with certain feelings. So if you’re saying “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do that,” it’s very likely that’s what you’ll experience in your reality and attract to your life (more situations where you feel that way).

But when you’re feeling amazing inside, you can say the words, “I’m not good enough” and they won’t even penetrate you, because you’ll feel so deeply in the moment that they’re not true. 

This same thing applies to thoughts.

Law of attraction says that whatever you think about you will attract to your life. And again, I don’t disagree with this. But there’s a distinction to be made, because it’s not about the specific thoughts.

It’s about the feelings that the thoughts create.

And yes, certain thoughts will come with certain feelings, good and bad. But you have the power. Power that extends far past the words you’re hearing in your head.

You have the power to create whatever feelings you want to feel. All day every day.

Now that’s not to say you won’t have life chaos happen that tries to change how you’re feeling, you will. But if you don’t let it get to you, and you keep that happy, positive feeling inside, then no matter what happens it won’t penetrate you.

I create the happy, positive, empowering feelings that I want to feel every single day by doing my daily mindset practice, which includes freestyle journaling to get the crap out of my head, then writing affirmations declaring who I am and that my dream life is already real, and then I finish up with 5-7 minutes of visualization where I walk myself through my ideal day, weaving in as much of my dream stuff as I can (like the car I want to drive, where I want to live, the kind of activities I do, etc).

Those feelings then carry themselves into my day. And so long as I don’t allow anything else to change those feelings (yes, it IS a choice to allow something to affect you), they stay with me all day long.

This took some time to build up to. In the beginning I’d feel the good feelings for a little while and then life chaos or worry would take over and I’d be back to feeling bad. But I just kept working on it.

At one point, I was doing 2+ hours of mindset work a day. Sometimes I still do. And every minute has been worth it.

My daily mindset practice has helped me to focus my mind and get my emotions in check, so I can go through my day feeling great and manifesting great things as a result of feeling that way. 

And when I’m feeling like that, no negative lyric (or thought) in the world can change it 🙂

Write with a purpose, live with intention,

 

 

#DailyThinkDifferent #DreamLifeOrBust

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Accept the Speed and Keep Going…

Confession: I’m impatient as fuck.

When I finally decide that I want something, I want it NOW. I don’t want to wait for it. My creative juices go into overdrive trying to figure out how to get it NOW.

Maybe you can relate?

It’s the problem with being a multi-passionate writer who has big dreams to fulfill. Because there’s so much you want to do and achieve and be and have, and you think you need to have it all right now.

And so if it doesn’t show up right away, you think you’re doing something wrong. You worry that it will never happen for you. You tell yourself that maybe you’re not good enough or worthy enough to have it. Or, even worse, that it happens for everyone else, but it won’t happen for you.

Been there. Done that. Still do it at times. But the thing I’ve learned over my decade of being a writer online is this: it never happens as fast as you think it’s going to. 

And this is a good thing.

Huh? How can not getting what you want when you want it be a good thing?

Because if you got everything right now, all at once, right when you wanted it, chaos would ensue. A kind of chaos you’ve not yet experienced. 

Imagine waking up and having everything you’ve been asking for right there waiting for you. The body. The success. The money. Sounds like a dream, right? Maybe. Until the calls start. And the emails.

Oh, you don’t know about the calls?

What about the emails? Didn’t hear about those either?

OK, let’s back up for a second.

Imagine that you’re Nicholas Sparks. You’re one of the richest writers in the world. You’ve seen more success in the last two decades than most see in two lifetimes. You’re always in demand. You get probably 100 calls a day and 1,000+ emails. Now imagine you woke up tomorrow and that was all true for you.

Except for you, it all happened overnight.

When you went to bed last night, you were still you, a struggling author just trying to get your shit together and sell some books. When you woke up, you are the most in-demand author this planet has ever seen. Everyone wants a piece of you. Everyone wants to work with you, hire you, pay you, call you, get your feedback, ask for your approval, have you represent their charity…

And since it happened overnight, you don’t have the support team or systems in place to handle the chaos, so you’re laying on your bed with thousands of unanswered emails and hundreds of unreturned phone calls… and all you can think is, “I wanted this? REALLY??”

If this happened, you wouldn’t be able to handle it. You wouldn’t be ready for it. You’d bust SO FAR past your Upper Limit that your subconscious would immediately find ways to sabotage everything so you can get back to a place where you feel safe and comfortable again.

This is why the pace at which things actually show up in your life is a blessing.

The pace is there to help you up-level gradually. So your mind and your capacity to hold on to the success is where it needs to be when the success shows up. 

That way you don’t sabotage it or wreck it with negative thoughts and old beliefs that you still have. Because you’ll have worked through that shit already and you’ll be to a place where you feel like you can handle the success you’re asking for.

You may not feel ready, but you feel capable. 

And that’s why you have to do your part—show up fully every single day, do what matters and be consistent—as well as trust in the timing of the Universe. It’s impossible for you to do those three things: show up fully every single day, do what matters and be consistent, and not get where you want to go.

IMPOSSIBLE. 

So if you know for certain that you’ll get there and your dream life will be your real life, why worry about the timing? Why stress yourself out trying to make things happen faster?

Just enjoy life, do you, and trust that as long as you keep going, the pieces of your dream life will continue to show up, until one day in the not too far off future, you’ll be living the dream life in your reality that you’ve only seen in your mind up ’till now.

Write with a purpose, live with intention,

 

 

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