If you’re in a marriage/long-term relationship that you feel stuck in, and you want clarity, guidance, and maybe even to manifest a divorce or breakup, here’s my 6-step process to help you make it happen…
First, if you prefer to listen instead of read, I told the full story of how I manifested my divorce in the first episode of my limited podcast series, 35 and Divorced.
I will add that my intention was not to manifest a divorce.
My intention was to surrender the outcome of my marriage to the Universe and let it decide the outcome of my marriage for me. My intention was to manifest the love and relationship I actually desired to have.
A divorce was the result the Universe chose (and six months later, I manifested the love of my life).
There are 6 steps in my process for how to manifest a divorce:
Note: I DO NOT EVER recommend using this process if you are in a domestic violence situation or one that has the potential to become violent. Please seek additional help along with using a manifesting process, don’t solely rely on being able to manifest yourself out of the situation.
STEP 1: GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT
What do you want in a person and relationship, either specifically or in general? I don’t recommend trying to manifest a specific person, but if you have a specific person, use them as an example of the type of person you desire to manifest.
I knew what I wanted–a deep, aligned, soul-connected, best friends, grow-and-expand together kind of love. I longed to be my full self and for that to not only be acceptable, but preferred.
STEP 2: SURRENDER IT TO THE UNIVERSE
You can do this in a variety of ways. When I manifested my divorce, I used what I call a “surrender statement” and said something along the lines of: Universe, I’m done trying to figure out this relationship. I’m delegating it to you–if this is the right relationship for me, I trust that it will shift in some way and become what I want. And if it’s not the right one, I ask that you have him break up with me. That way I will know the outcome was right.
STEP 3: BECOME A VIBRATIONAL MATCH
Becoming a vibrational match means you are feeling good and/or feeling the specific emotions you’d be feeling if you had what you desire to have.
When I was manifesting my divorce, I asked myself: If I really believed this was done and being handled for me, what would I focus my time on? What came to me what I would just find ways to feel good. So that’s what I did all day every day.
STEP 4: LIVE YOUR DAMN LIFE
This means don’t avoid enjoying your life in whatever ways you can until you manifest a divorce. Find ways to enjoy your life now, while you’re manifesting it.
Make plans, indulge in your hobbies, watch movies that make you laugh, whatever you can do to enjoy your life, and stop waiting.
I went about life and my marriage as usual. I stopped worrying about the How of getting what I wanted. I spent more time doing things I enjoyed, and I found ways to be happy with my life as it was.
STEP 5: TAKE INSPIRED ACTION
This means do what you know to do, and allow yourself to be inspired to additional actions that come to you while you’re doing what you know to do.
When I felt an inner nudge to take an action, even if it didn’t always make sense, I trusted the nudges. In hindsight, all of the actions that “made no sense” added up to “the How” of getting what I asked for–my now ex-husband asking me for a divorce.
STEP 6: TRUST AND KEEP GOING
This is the part of the process where you continue to take action and believe, even if it doesn’t happen as fast as you think it should.
By the end of the year I was manifesting a better relationship, nothing had happened yet. Nothing changed. Other than how I was feeling inside–which was really freaking good–nothing was different in my physical reality. At that point, I could’ve quit believing that it would work, but I didn’t.
And the Universe showed up eight days later when out of the blue, my now ex-husband asked me for a divorce.
I share the full story of how I manifested my divorce–what I did and why it worked–plus how to apply these same concepts to whatever you want to manifest (whether that’s a divorce or something else), in my bestselling book, F*CK THE HOW: GET ANYTHING YOU WANT WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT HOW YOU’LL DO IT (available in ebook, paperback, hardcover, and Audible, plus you can read it for free with Kindle Unlimited!)
I hope these resources inspire you to stop settling for less than what you desire and to know you’re worth it.
