“You should go to bed earlier, you look tired.” “You can’t do it that way.” “You should do it this way.” “You don’t really want that.” “You aren’t that kind of person.” “You don’t come from that kind of family.” “That’s not really right for you.”
Other people’s opinions. For your entire life, you’re inundated with them.
No matter who you are, how old you are, or what you do, know or achieve, there’s always someone somewhere who has something to say about it.
You’ve been taught that those opinions matter and that they matter greatly. More than your own.
‘Cause after all, “mother knows best,” or “father knows best,” or “teacher knows best,” or “boss knows best,” or whatever version of that has been said in your life.
They taught you not to think for yourself. Not to trust yourself.
To constantly rely on the opinions and thoughts and priorities of other people. Because other people know better than you do about what’s right for you.
Except… what the fuck?
How would it ever make any sense that someone who is outside of you—who cannot know your heart or your thoughts or your feelings or your desires or your purpose and destiny like you do—knows what’s best for you? That is some ridiculous bullshit.
And yet this is what you’re taught. This is what is programmed into you from birth.
This is what you subconsciously pick up during the first 7 years of your life, when your mind is in theta state, which is like a sponge. Soaking it all up, observing what the “rules” are in your life for survival and to grow up and be a functioning member of society.
But it’s all nonsense.
‘Cause YOU create your own reality, with your thoughts, your beliefs, your perspectives and, most importantly, your feelings. It’s all within your control.
You weren’t taught that. When you hear things like that, it frustrates you.
On one hand, you know in your heart it’s true. On the other, you still often feel like a victim in your own life.
Never getting to have what you actually want. Coming up against obstacle after obstacle that stops you.
And no matter what you do, you can’t seem to make any changes stick for very long.
You’ve been disconnected from your inner-guidance and inner-trust. You’ve got your trust, your faith, your worthiness on the opinions from the outside.
You’ve given up control of your life.
You might think you’re in control, but then nothing ever changes and you keep getting the same results over and over again.
What’s really in control?
Your subconscious programming. The programming that says you’re not good enough and you don’t know what you’re doing and you need to ask for and rely on the opinions of others for how you should live your life (and run your business).
Because that’s the programming you were given.
And that programming was needed at one point in your life, to keep you safe, to keep you functioning, to keep you moving forward. There was a time when it was useful.
But that was a long time ago. You don’t need it anymore.
The programming that helped you survive childhood no longer applies when you’re an adult.
It’s outdated. It’s buggy. And it’s no longer serving your greatest good.
The problem is, those programs are solid and they have a lifetime of evidence backing them up.
The good news is, like a computer that’s past its prime, you can change the program.
You can reprogram it. You can upgrade the operating system. You can teach it new, better, more empowering things.
It just takes commitment, consistency and repetition. For as long as it takes.
Bringing yourself back to truth every single day. Reminding yourself you know what’s best for you and that you can trust yourself and your inner-guidance. Repeating over and over and over again, how worthy you are, how deserving, how enough, and how what anyone else thinks or says doesn’t matter whatsoever (unless you decide to let it).
Reprogramming your operating system is the easiest and fastest way for you to close the gap between where you are in life right now and where you want to be.
‘Cause once that new program is in there, it will operate on autopilot. And then you can just go about enjoying your amazing life.
Dream life or bust,