Are You Doing The Thing, Or Are You Doing The Thing That’s Meant To Be A Side Effect Of You Doing The Thing?

For the last couple of weeks, I’ve finally been owning who I actually am (an author), and what I’m really meant to be doing in this world (writing hundreds of books, turning those books into movies, being one of the highest-paid writers in the world). It’s been kind of crazy how fast I was able to pivot from what I was doing previously once I made the decision it was time to go all-in on what it was always meant to be about for me.

I’m a super multi-passionate person. I’m like a Jane of All Trades, I’m good at a lot of stuff. And part of my problem all the years I’ve been building my business is that I was focusing on and building the wrong thing. Without even realizing it.

I’ve always known I was meant to author hundreds of books, fiction and nonfiction. That’s been the vision since Day 1. And a likely side effect of me being that author was eventually I would be creating workshops, coaching programs, physical products, like t-shirts, and other things. 

The problem for me was, instead of building the actual vision– me being a full-time author–I started building all of the other stuff first. The coaching programs, the workshops, the t-shirts. Doing the things that were supposed to be a side effect of me being the author I’m meant to be. Not stuff that I create in and of themselves. 

I was essentially building the cart before I even had a horse that was ready for the journey. 

Yes, along the way of building all that I have up to this point, I was writing and publishing the books. But only as a side thing when it should’ve been the main focus.

And the truth that’s been very fucking tough for me to admit, especially since I’ve worked so damn hard the past decade, is that it hasn’t gone very well. 

Sure, I’ve been able to sustain an annual income of between $33,000 and $82,000 per year, varying each year but never dipping below $33k. Sure, I’ve helped hundreds of people make transformations in their lives. Sure, it’s been awesome working for myself and not having to work a “real job” anymore.

But none of that is what I came here for. 

I came here to impact millions and make millions and maybe even billions. I came here to be one of the highest-paid writers in the world. I came here to be a shining example of what’s possible when you truly live from your divine gifts and use them to the fullest.

And I haven’t been doing any of that because I’ve been mostly ignoring the thing that it was always meant to be about for me.

As one of my favorite coaches says, you can’t get wealthy from a place of the wrong service. And I’ve been mostly in the wrong service since the beginning of my business.

I had somehow convinced myself that my writing, my books weren’t enough. That I also had to be a coach and offer workshops and sell services. 

What I didn’t realize until now, is that a book IS being of service, and to far more people than a coaching program or workshop can ever be. Books are one of the most accessible ways to spread a message and share information and stories and help change people’s lives.

I forgot that, for a very, very long time.

Until recently, when I watched the incredible Amanda Frances self-publish a book and sell more than 10,000 copies in the first 30 days, showing me the impact one book can make on the world. (If you want to get her book, Rich As Fuck, go here: She served as a reminder for me of what’s possible when you believe, and when you’re living in alignment with your soul.

A reminder I SO needed, as I’ve been quietly writing a book that I know is going to be one of the main ones I’m known for.

I’ve been a full-time author for two weeks. I’m now living in my highest alignment to soul. I’m no longer building the side effects of my vision and instead am focused exclusively on building the actual vision and letting the side effects show up as they’re meant to.

It’s like a whole new world and connection to myself and the Universe opened up when I finally (FINALLY!!) said YES to the vision that has always been inside of me.

Have you been building the side effects of what you’re actually meant to be doing? As confronting as that can be, you’ll know if any of this is resonating with you.

If you have been, now’s your chance to finally make the leap and go all-in on what it’s really meant to be about for you.

Continuing to build the side effects, the Plan B, can only lead to mediocre success, fulfillment, and money. And that’s not what you came here for now, is it?

Dream life or bust,

P.S. A BIG announcement!! I officially have a publish date for my new book, F*ck the How (TBA)!! I can’t wait to share the cover reveal and clips from the book I’ve been working on with you. To be the first to know when the book is for sale and get a sneak peek of the cover and some clips from the book before it goes public, join the F*ck the How book waitlist here: 

 Photo by Heather B-Yanaitis

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