Could I manifest someone breaking up with me?
I had that thought on a warm, sunny July 2018 afternoon in Austin, Texas, where I was living at the time with my now-ex-husband. Nothing major happened that led me to thinking about this question other than a commitment I made earlier that year. In January, I committed to myself that I was going to learn how to feel good every day and to sustain that feeling no matter what was going on around me. I had no idea the journey that would unfold from there.
Since I had spent so much of my time that year focused on feeling good, I was really starting to notice the things that didn’t feel good to me. They were sticking out like the proverbial sore thumb. One of those things was my marriage.
Our relationship wasn’t horrible. It was fine. It was good enough. We definitely had our rocky years, but overall, our relationship was okay. The only thing was, we were more like roommates than a married couple. We were two people mostly doing our own things in life (he’s a musician, I write books, and own an online business). Sometimes we hung out during the day, or had dinner together, or watched movies and TV shows at night. A lot of the time, he was at band practice or traveling for shows, and I stayed home working on my books and business.
It was one of those situations where you know things could be better, but you also know they could be a lot worse. You wonder whether it’s worth losing what you have, even if it is mediocre and not what you actually want in your heart of hearts. I kept going back and forth on whether or not he and our relationship were right for me anymore. Some days I felt like we had a good thing going, other days I knew we needed to break up. I had split energy like this going on for months, maybe even years. I just wasn’t admitting it to myself.
And that’s where that question came from. Could I manifest someone breaking up with me? I wondered this as I thought about how many times that year I had tried to decide for myself whether this was the right person and relationship for me. I always came up short. What I did know was, if he broke up with me, that would make things a whole lot easier. The only problem was, I wasn’t willing to admit that I actually wanted us to break up. I still had a lot of guilt and serious concern that I was making a mistake.
So I decided to do something I had never done before: I asked the Universe to decide for me. That’s what lead me to manifesting a divorce six months later—and he broke up with me.
F*ck the How is the story of how I manifested my divorce–what I did, why it worked–and, most importantly, how to apply this same process to literally ANYTHING you dream of or desire that you don’t know How you’ll make happen.
You never have to know How you’ll do something in order to decide that you will. When I look back on everything I’ve created, achieved, and manifested over the course of my life so far, I never, ever knew How I would do it beforehand. I just knew what I wanted, believed I got to have it, lived my life as if that were true, and took action when I felt inspired to. Most of the time this was being done unconsciously, meaning I wasn’t conscious of the process I was using to bypass the How and get whatever it was I wanted. I was just doing it intuitively. It wasn’t until the day my now-ex asked me for a divorce that I realized, “Holy shit! There’s a process to all of this that I’ve been using unconsciously my entire life.”
I was able to reverse-engineer things and I saw clear as day that I had used this same process to manifest every single thing I had desired and achieved up to that point, including getting a dream job right out of college, finding the perfect dog for me, and becoming a multi-book bestselling author. Now that I was conscious of it, I knew I could use this same process to manifest whatever else I wanted, too (and I have ever since).
This book is the process I live by to have, do, be, and achieve literally ANYTHING I want without ever knowing How beforehand. The things I’ve done and achieved and now have in my life are a direct result of this process. (And yes, there’s always more to come!).
This book is the Ultimate HOW. It’s the answer for every dream and desire you have that you don’t know How you’ll make happen. YES, even your crazy, out-there “pipe dreams.”
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