A couple weeks ago, I posted a question in one of the Law of Attraction groups I’m in on Facebook and asked people what their biggest challenge is with making the LOA work for them. And one of the most common challenges that came up over and over again, was not knowing how to feel like you already have the thing you desire to have.
Law of Attraction is all about emotion and feeling. It’s about creating a feeling inside of already having the things you desire.
By doing that, you magnetize the things you desire to you.
Why? Because we live in a feeling, vibration-based Universe where like attracts like. Which means if you’re on the same feeling vibration as the thing you desire to have, it will be attracted to you, like a magnet.
Problem is, most people on a day-to-day basis are focused on the absence or lack of the things they desire, and so the feeling frequency and the vibe they’re sending out is saying, “I don’t have what I want.”
And what does, “I don’t have what I want” attract? More of not having what you want.
There’s no way around it. That’s how our Universe works. And it’s an inclusive Universe, meaning anything you include in your focus and vibration will be what shows up for you.
Even if you don’t actually want it.
So how do you get around this? How do you get yourself on the vibration of what you desire to have?
You must FEEL IT, like you already have it right now. (Even if you don’t.) And that’s where most people get tripped up.
We’re taught a lot of useless, nonsense stuff in school and growing up, but one thing we’re not taught–which is actually something that’s important for us to know–is how to connect with our emotions and create feelings inside ourselves.
In fact, we’re often taught that feeling our feelings is bad or makes us weak (all nonsense, by the way).
So we avoid the way we feel. We ignore it. And instead of being proactive and creating our feelings intentionally, we spend our lives being reactive to everything happening around us.
But if you’re ever going to have the things you desire, you must learn how to be intentional about your feelings. You must find a way to feel like you already have the things you want right now.
And that’s the challenge. That’s the thing most people struggle with.
So I’m going to show you how to move past that and begin feeling like you have what you want right now.
1. You Must Be Very Clear On What You Want
You can’t be intentional about manifesting what you desire if you’re not clear on what it is you actually want. You must be very clear on it.
Grab your journal and spend some time answering the questions: what do I really want right now and why?
This is an important step–you must know what you want and why you want it. The “what” and the motivation for the “what” (aka: the why), is your job.
If you don’t know what you want or aren’t clear enough on it, you’ll never get it.
2. Figure Out How You Would Feel If You Already Have It
This is the challenging part, because if you don’t currently have something or you’ve never had it or experienced it before, it’s hard to know exactly what you’d be feeling if you had it now. This is when that skill of educating guessing comes into play.
You must make a hypothesis about how you think you’ll feel if you had it now.
For example, let’s say you want to be a Best Selling Author on Amazon. What feelings do you hypothesize you’ll feel when you get there?
Here are some options for what you might feel: happy, excited, passionate, motivated, proud of yourself, confident, badass.
Grab your journal and make a list right now of every positive emotion you associate with becoming a Best Selling Author (or whatever your goal is).
3. Figure Out Where In Your Life You Already Feel That Way
Now take a look at your list of the positive emotions associated with you having the thing you desire, and then figure out where in your current life you already feel those same feelings.
For example, maybe you have a dog who makes you feel happy and excited. And maybe you worked really hard at earning a college degree and it makes you feel passionate, confident and proud of yourself.
Grab your journal and list out everything you currently own or have experienced that makes you feel all of the positive emotions you listed out. It doesn’t matter what it is you currently have in your life that makes you feel those emotions, just find the things that do.
4. Use the Things You Already Have As A Starting Point for Creating the Feeling of Having Your Desires Now
Now that you’re clear on what you want, what you will feel when you have it, and what you already have that makes you feel that way, all you have to do is combine the two. My favorite way to do this is through visualization.
Start by closing your eyes and imagining all of the things you already have/have experienced that make you feel how you think you’ll feel when you have the things you desire (that you don’t currently have).
Really steep yourself in these emotions. Feel them as deeply as you can.
Once you’re really feeling the emotions of the things you already have, then you can start to bring in images of the things you desire but don’t yet have. Essentially what you’re doing is connecting the feelings of having it now with the things you don’t yet have.
And the cool thing is, the Universe can’t tell the difference between you feeling a certain way about something you already have versus feeling that way about something you want but don’t have. The Universe responds exclusively to the feelings you’re putting out.
So if you can associate the positive feelings you get from the things you already have with the things you desire to have, you’ll begin magnetizing those things to you.
The more time you spend doing this–I recommend at least 4-5 minutes a day, minimum–the sooner you’ll actually have those things you desire.
Now most people won’t do this. Most people want things, but don’t want them bad enough to do what it takes to get them.
But you’re different.
You know what you’re meant for and you refuse to accept anything else. For you, there is only Plan A.
This is how you get there.
Dream life or bust,
jen
