Being a professional writer and authorpreneur is tough. For more reasons than one.
But one of the biggest reasons it’s tough is because in order to do it successfully, you have to be really freaking selfish with your time.
And most people won’t get this. Most people won’t understand and will think you’re a workaholic or that you only care about work.
Most people aren’t living life on purpose or with any kind of mission or intention. They’re just floating along letting stuff happen to them and then reacting to it, complaining mostly, and continuing to live in Mediocre-Life Land.
But I’m different.
I have a plan, a dream. I have goals for my writing life that are so big they scare the shit out of me 99 percent of the time.
And yet I press on.
I keep showing up and doing the work and playing the game. I live with intention, purpose. I am fueled by passion and my message. I’m insanely ambitious and unwilling to accept anything but my dream life.
And I’m really freaking selfish about my time. I spend most of my day in front of my Macbook. Pretty much every day. (Although I try to take Saturdays off and maybe even part of the day on Sunday).
Yeah, it’s because I’m a workaholic. But it’s also because it doesn’t feel like work to me. It feels like play. It feels like I get to have recess all day, every day.
What could be better than that?
And even on the toughest days I still walk away feeling fulfilled and like I made shit happen. When I go to bed I’m accomplished and super hungry for more.
How many people can really say that about their lives and mean it?
Living the writing life, the creative life, is not for everyone. I’m guessing since you’re here with me, you resonate with this. You want more for your writing life and you know that you can have it if you do the work and stay focused.
And that’s great. It’s awesome.
Now you’ve gotta prove it–to yourself more than anyone else (I don’t believe in proving things to other people). Now you’ve gotta step up and do the work.
And it starts with being selfish with your time.
That’s not to say you don’t have a family life or a social life, you can have all of those things and more. But the biggest focus needs to be on doing the work, on taking the action to make your dream happen.
When it’s not, you’ll find yourself getting cranky because there’s a desire burning inside you, but you’re not seeing results. That used to happen to me a lot, until I finally committed to being the writer and author I dream of being.
Now I show up and I do the work, every day. I lock myself in my writing room or I leave the apartment and go to Starbucks or to my husband’s band room where I have no internet access, and I get shit done.
When people call themselves writers but then tell me they’ve gone months without writing a single word it kinda blows my mind. That’d be like calling yourself a gym rat and yet you haven’t gone to the gym in years.
Not gonna cut it.
Professional writers and authorpreneurs don’t take months or years off. Hell, many don’t even take weeks or days off.
It’s not because they don’t need a break (everyone does from time-to-time), it’s because they’re so driven by the passion and the desire to put words on the page that they can’t not. Taking a day off is like torture to their souls.
The ideas start piling up and soon they feel like exploding.
Or maybe it’s just me?
I write every day, because I can’t not write. When I don’t write, when I don’t create, I feel dead, like I’m just occupying space.
So that’s why I’m selfish with my time. That’s why I go out of my way to avoid people and events as often as I can in favor of getting to spend time alone with my Macbook.
Deranged, I know.
Most people don’t get it and won’t ever get it, and I’m OK with that.
I chose the creative life, the writing life, and everything that comes with it.
And I choose it every day, over and over again. Because success is a daily practice.
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8 Replies to “I’m Totally Selfish With My Time And Here’s Why You Should Be Too”
Thanks. I am starting to be selfish with my time and I glad that others feel the same way.
@IB You’re welcome!
Awesome…I thought it was just me. Wish you the best Jennifer! I’m glad I came across this.
@Regina B I’m glad you came across it too. Glad it resonated.
Wow! Someone who shares my thoughts and really get’s me. I could relate to every word that was written. I’m not a writer, but this is exactly how I feel about fulfilling and living my dream. I’m so selfish with my time and it feels amazing!
@Mszyana YES!!! Be selfish with your time. It’s the only way.
Thank you for validating my experience. I am in private practice and in my early sixties with no intention of slowing down, now I’m making intructional Youtube videos and learning to edit them myself. Am I selfish with my time? Yes, but sometimes I feel a form of survivor’s guilt in knowing others do not have a passion and busy themselves until the day is done.
@Dana Sounds like you’re on the right track!!