I’m a recovering control freak.
I used to get SO caught up in the Hows of making my dreams and desires a reality.
And if I couldn’t clearly see HOW something was possible for me or How I could STEP BY STEP make it happen, I wouldn’t go for it.
I would stop myself or hold myself back from even admitting that I wanted it.
At times, I went so far as to make fun of those things—“what a ridiculous idea that is haha”—while secretly harboring a desire for it.
Not knowing the How was always the thorn in my side.
It was the thing keeping me from my biggest desires and dreams.
Until the day I decided to try something different.
My favorite spiritual author, Mike Dooley, was always talking about what he calls the “Cursed Hows” and saying the How wasn’t your job.
And so one day I had a thought: what if the How didn’t actually matter?
What if I could have anything I want and all I had to do was hand the How over to the Universe?
So I did a little experiment.
Within six months, I manifested myself out of a relationship I felt stuck in for over a decade.
Within a year, I manifested the love of my life. The kind of love and type of person I always dreamed of but didn’t for a long time believe was possible for me.
Within three years, I dropped ALLLLL of the stuff I was doing in my old biz—because I no longer feared not knowing How my true desire would work out—and FINALLY went all in on being an author.
Within five years, I turned my financial life around, built the online business of my dreams, became the author I always wanted to be, and created an income from my book royalties.
All because I decided to hand the How over to the Universe and then get the fuck out of the way.
Now I do my part (‘cause I always have a part), and I let the Universe do its part (‘cause it too always has a part).
And I trust that what I want or something even better will show up.
P.S. Ready to let go of the How in your life? Check out my books, F*ck the How, Manifest Everything, and Quantum Leap Your Life, which are spiritual roadmaps for manifesting your biggest dreams and desires without worrying about the How.
