What You Think Surrender Looks Like VS What It Actually Looks Like

The example I’m gonna use for this one is ending a relationship, not only because this is an area where most people feel they need to do it themselves or figure out the How, but also because this is the area where surrendering to God/Universe changed my life forever.

And, honestly, so many people get surrender wrong.

You know you can ask God/Universe for something, but then you still think you need to figure out what to do or still need to worry about it or think about it all of the time—but that’s actually the opposite of surrender.

Here’s what surrender looks like for most people:

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Why I Renounced Being Catholic And Stepped Into A Totally Different Experience Of God

This is something I never talk about, mostly because it’s uncomfortable, but it’s something that’s coming through right now, wanting to be shared.

I was raised Catholic. I made all of the sacraments and went to church and religion classes every week. I was taught about things like original sin and needing to confess your sins and be forgiven for them and God judging you to decide whether you’ve lived a life worthy of getting to go to Heaven after you die.

And none of it sat well with me. Especially now, but even as a kid. I just always felt like there was something off about what I was being taught.

For years of my adult life, I carried around what I call “God trauma.” I was raised to believe things about life and about God that did not resonate with me. Not only did it not resonate, but it felt like a lie.

That was NOT the experience of God I’d been having my entire life… and yet that was what I was being taught to believe.

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Live A Life That Feels Good To You And You’ll No Longer Care What Anyone Else Thinks Or Says Or Does

Back when I had a day job, I used to commute to an office. And like so many other people in the world, I used to drive aggressively (mostly because I was always running late).

I would fly past cars that were going too slow and weave in and out of traffic to get a tiny bit closer to where I needed to be (the opening scene from “Office Space” comes to mind). I would yell at other drivers (to myself) while stuck in traffic. It was ugly. And it definitely didn’t feel good.

But then I quit my job in March 2012, and I decided something: I would never again drive that way.

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Deciding Is Always The First Step To The How Showing Up

There are resources out there for every single thing you desire to do, be and have, the only reason it hasn’t shown itself to you yet is because you haven’t DECIDED

In my early 20s, I was living in SoCal and working at a magazine. It was my dream during college to be a magazine editor, so I was loving life.

But there was this other thing I also wanted to do. It was nagging me day in and day out.

I love fashion, and back then I was super into jewelry and accessories. I couldn’t get enough. I also loved making jewelry, for myself and for people who saw what I made and wanted me to make them something too.

I’d been considering starting a handmade jewelry business, but I hadn’t pulled the trigger on it because I had no idea how to even get started.

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Confidence Is Something You Create–Here’s How

A lot of writers and creatives tell me they “wish they had my confidence.” And it’s true; I am confident, especially in my abilities as a writer and my willingness to put my creative stuff (and myself) out into the world.

But it wasn’t always like that.

There was a time when it took me 100 tries just to make a two-minute video. There was a time when I wouldn’t even speak my opinion out loud to anyone because I didn’t want them to judge me or think bad of me. There was a time when I kept my ideas, my thoughts, my gifts to myself and didn’t put them out there at all.

Until I realized, I actually did have something to say. I actually had learned quite a bit over the course of my life that I could teach others. And I wanted to.

So that also meant I had to get over myself and find a way to put my stuff out there.

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