By Jennifer Blanchard
And one of the questions asked by a reader was: How do you motivate yourself to get work done after trying many things and failing over and over again?
I loved Leo’s response. And it applies to overcoming procrastination, as well. He said:
“Motivation is just about taking that first step—just getting excited about something enough to get started. Then it’s about focusing on enjoying what you’re doing, right now, instead of worrying about how you’re going to get to a destination.
You also need to forget about failures, or at least the part of them that gets you discouraged. Take away from your failures a lesson about what obstacles stand in your way, and leave behind any bad feelings. Those are in the past. Focus on right now, and how fun the activity is, right now.”
In order to get yourself motivated, as Leo said, you need to just find something to get excited about. Whatever that may be.
Maybe it’s a novel you’re working on. Maybe it’s a short story. Or maybe it’s just the idea of writing every day.
Whatever it is that gets you excited—whatever it is that you’re passionate about—use it! Hold tight to it and use it to motivate yourself.
When you’re working on a project that excites you and that you’re super passionate about, procrastination will be the furthest thing from your thoughts. Because all you’ll be thinking about is trying to squeeze in time to work on your exciting project.
Now you may be thinking—“Well that doesn’t keep me from procrastinating.” To that I have to say, if you think you’re excited about a project, but then you procrastinate on it, my guess is you’re not as excited or passionate about it like you think you are.
Or maybe you are excited and passionate about the project, but you’re the thing that’s standing in your way.
The reason for this could be as follows:
- Should Vs. Want—Without even realizing it, you may be telling yourself that you SHOULD be working on that project. But as I mention all the time, “should” is a killer of motivation. Should makes you feel trapped and like you have no options, which then causes you to procrastinate. In order to get back to the place where you’re excited and motivated, tell yourself you WANT to be working on the project. Tell yourself you can’t wait to get home so you can write that chapter or work on your first draft. When you want to do something, you do it. When you tell yourself you should be doing something, you kill it.
- Self-Set Limitations—You want to be working on that writing project you’ve been putting off. It excites you, it gets you jazzed, it motivates you to get out of bed in the morning. But those limitations you’ve placed on yourself are holding you back. You want to know the best part about that, thou? Since you set the limitations, you can remove them! It’s all up to you. You hold the keys to your success.
- Fear—Yes, fear is a big one. And one that I talk about frequently. Fear is what holds most writers back from achieving the kind of success they dream of. But fear, just like self-set limitations, can be overcome. All you need to do is accept that you’re afraid (regardless of what it is you’re afraid of) and take the first step anyhow. As they say at the nutrition school I’m currently attending, “feel the fear and do it anyways.” That’s the only way you’ll ever be truly successful.
So what can you do about the motivation problem you’re having? Well… there are several things you can do, such as:
- Make a list of all the things you love or that excite you about your writing project. Maybe it’s the fact that you get to lose yourself in someone else’s world for a few hours. Maybe it’s the fact that you’re developing your writing skills. Maybe you’re excited about a new plot twist you created. Whatever it is about your project that excites you, write it down. Then, next time your motivation is waning or you feel your self-set limitations or fears popping up, read through the list. It will help reenergize you and make you see why you want to dedicate your time to the project to begin with.
- Spend 10 to 15 minutes every night making notes about your project. This can be anything from coming up with a to-do list for the next time you work on the project to a list of plot ideas. Just spend some time each day making notes for the project. The more you think about the project (and the more you work on it), the more ideas you’ll have and the more likely you’ll be to sit down and write. By making notes daily, you’re keeping the project fresh in your mind, which makes it front-and-center when you are ready to dedicate time to it.
- Focus on the good things. Sure, you’ve made mistakes with your project. You’ve failed a couple times. But SO WHAT? All that means is you learned how not to do it next time. Instead of worrying about or thinking about your failures and mistakes, focus on what’s good about your project. Write down (or at least think about) all the things that you’ve done right and all the good things that have happened with your project. When you have a positive attitude about your project, fueled by all the good things, you’ll be a lot more likely to work on it than you will if you view the project as a failure or a mistake.
What do you do to stay motivated on your writing projects, even after a failure?
About the Author: Jennifer Blanchard is founder of Procrastinating Writers. Be sure to follow her on Twitter.