I know, that headline is pretty controversial. Especially because we’ve been taught that certain things are “right” and certain things are “wrong.”
But what if NOTHING was ever right or wrong? What if everything just is what it is, and we stopped judging ourselves for it?
The truth is, “right” and “wrong” are subjective and will be different for everyone.
Sure, there are some things most of us will agree are wrong. I’m not arguing against certain things being inappropriate or unnecessary.
But what if nothing was ever really wrong? What if you just chose to believe everything that shows up is perfect and exactly what you needed in that moment to lead you to the next moment?
There are so many choices I made in my younger years that I still to this day think about and berate myself for. But lately I’ve had a realization… what if none of that stuff was wrong?
What if I always made the right choice? And if I hadn’t made that choice, I wouldn’t be where I am right now.
I’m the first person to say that I’m hard on myself.
I always have been. I have extremely high standards for myself and I rarely used to meet those standards.
I was constantly wronging myself for not choosing better or doing better or being better back in the day.
But what if all of the stuff I’m wronging myself about was actually right? What if I stopped wronging myself for it and instead embraced that I was doing the best I with what I knew at the time?
Then what?
Then I’d have nothing to give myself a hard time about and I’d have no choice but to fully love and accept myself. And you’d have to do the same.
You’re not wrong. You’re not bad. You haven’t done anything wrong. You haven’t done anything bad.
All of your choices were right and always have been.
Those choices have allowed you to become who you are today. And who you are today is perfect.
Yes, maybe there are things you’d like to improve or changes you’d like to make, but you’ve always been right. All along you’ve made the right choices for you.
And the only reason an old choice ever feels “not right” is because you’re using other people’s opinions of those choices as a gauge for what’s right and what’s wrong, instead of trusting yourself.
You can’t get it wrong. Ever.
But you’re still giving yourself a hard time instead of embracing who you used to be and accepting that you are no longer that person and you now know better than you did before.
So what if you just stopped doing that? What if you finally decided to embrace all of you, the good and the seemingly bad?
What if you no longer gave yourself a hard time about the past? What if you decided right now, today, that every choice you’ve made and every choice you’ll make going forward is absolutely right?
Continuing to wrong yourself about the choices you’ve made or things that you’ve done in the past, is simply just another way for you to hold yourself back from having the love and acceptance you desire and deserve.
Take a minute to really think about this.
Isn’t it time for you to let yourself off the hook? Isn’t it time you made amends with your past and your past self?
Isn’t it time for you to offer yourself the same love and acceptance (or forgiveness) you offer others?
‘Cause you’ve got to love and accept yourself first before you’ll ever receive that kind of love and acceptance on the outside.
Dream life or bust,
jen
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