Last night, I received the proof copy of the hardcover edition of F*ck the How. This is the first time I’ve ever done a self-published hardcover book. It’s been a cool process and exciting step in being able to offer more options to my readers.
And as I was just sitting here looking at it on the ottoman in front of me, I noticed something. I was feeling proud and excited and yet could still sense the fear in the background.
Even with F*ck the How being the 13th book I’ve written and published. Even with this being the best book I’ve ever written so far. Even with this being the (nonfiction) book I’m the proudest of so far.
Even with this being a book that I channeled and co-wrote with the Universe. Even with all of the things I know this book is meant for and the energy it holds.
The fear is still there. Fear that I’ll never be able to do this again. Fear that the book isn’t as good as I think it is. Fear that I’ll never sell the number of copies I desire to.
Fear that none of what I see and feel inside of me about what I’m meant for in life will ever actually happen.
And… so what?
No matter how many books you write and publish, or what level you get to in your life, career, or business, the fear will always be there. It’s never gonna go away. It’s just a part of it.
So the question is… what are you choosing? If both feeling proud and excited (or whatever) and feeling afraid exist and are available for the choosing, which do you choose?
I no longer choose the fear.
I acknowledge that it’s there when it is. But I don’t choose to give it any power.I don’t spend time thinking or worrying about it. I don’t focus on it.
I don’t make it mean anything.
I choose to believe.
Regardless of the fear. Always. No matter what.
Believing in my dreams is who I am. It’s who I’ve always been and who I will always be.
I get what I want because I don’t back down. I don’t give up. And I don’t choose fear.
Doesn’t mean I don’t have a momentarily lapse where an unconscious, fear-based thought or belief or pattern pops up and I don’t catch it right away. That happens all the time.
But I’ve gotten more practiced at catching myself in those moments. And I’m more committed to immediately redirecting myself when I do.
Because of all of this, I’m able to hold to and focus on and believe in my dreams and desires, while still allowing the fear to be present.
It’s like fear is standing on the sidelines watching. I’m aware of it. I know that I could at any moment make a choice to put it into play by focusing on it.
And I just choose not to.
I consciously choose to see the hardcover copy of my book sitting on the ottoman in front of me and to believe in my dreams and desires, rather than entertain the fear riding alongside of them. I choose to believe. Always.
The cool thing is, by allowing fear to be there and choosing belief anyhow, the fear shows up a lot less. ‘Cause when you stop choosing it, there’s really no reason for it to hang around you anymore.
P.S. One of the biggest fears people have is not knowing How they’ll make their dreams happen. And that’s why I wrote F*ck the How: Get Anything You Want Without Worrying About How You’ll Do It.
So you can set that fear aside and get what you want anyhow.
When you buy a copy of F*ck the How (any format), you get my digital course, “Reclaim Your Worthiness” for FREE! Just check out the details in the back of the book when you buy it HERE
