“I’ll give it six months and if I don’t find an agent by then, I’ll just become a self-published author.”
“It’s been four months and nothing is happening. I don’t know how much longer I can keep doing this.”
“If it doesn’t happen in the next two years, I’m gonna go do this other thing instead.”
If I could put a label on those three statements and statements like them, here’s what I’d use: NEVER GOING TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS.
When you want something, when you have a dream that you want to bring to life, when you have a desire you want to manifest, the last thing you should ever be doing is putting a timeframe around it or setting up arbitrary “rules” for when it’s time to throw in the towel. Because doing that will stop you from achieving what you want.
You’re not all in. You’re not willing to do whatever it takes, for as long as it takes, until it takes, and then keep going.
That’s the thing about success, those who achieve it only do so because they’ve thrown out the back up plan, they’ve gone all in on the goal, and they’re not willing to accept anything except making it happen.
Success really comes down to who’s most committed, most consistent and most willing to do whatever it takes and be in it for the long-haul. There can be no fairweather goal-chasing in the level of success that you dream of playing at.
You either want it, or you don’t.
You’re either committed, or you’re not.
You either give up the back up plan and go all in for however long it takes, or you may as well give up now and just go with the back up plan. ‘Cause so long as that back up plan exists, you will never do what it’s gonna take to achieve your dream.
When you have another option in mind, it stops you from pushing through the Resistance or the doubt or fear or the “I don’t feel like its.” It stops you from laser-focusing on what you really want and blocking out everything else. Because you have a backup plan.
When you’re all in on your dream, and when you’re willing to do whatever it takes, there’s no need for a backup plan. Because you already know there’s no other option for you. You’ll either get there or you’ll die trying.
Backup plans are for people who don’t believe in themselves enough to fight for what they really want.
But when you believe in yourself and in the work you’re doing and in your dreams, backup plans become unnecessary. People who fully believe in themselves and in what they’re doing will always find a way to make it happen.
And the best part is, you never have to do it alone. The Universe is totally here and ready to help you make whatever dream you have happen. This universal energy and power is available to all of us. But it only works if you use it and only if you’re laser-focused on achieving your goal.
Otherwise you’ll keep doing the one-foot-in-one-foot-out dance, and the Universe will have no idea what you really want. Because doubting and changing course a million times and not being clear on what you want just confuses things.
Don’t get me wrong–it’s totally fine to change your mind and to pivot directions or quit what you’re doing and go do something else. It’s not about never changing your mind or pivoting. That stuff has to happen, it’s what gives you clarity on what you really want.
But you have to eventually commit to and go all in on something and then stick with it until you’ve achieved it.
And the good news is, when you’re laser-focused on the goal and you know what you want, you can absolutely have it and achieve it, and the Universe will totally show up for you and help you make it happen.
You just gotta give up the backup plan. You’ve gotta stop putting parameters around your dreams or the success you desire to achieve and go ALL IN. All in means no back up plan, not going to be detered, eyes on the prize, willing to risk it all, and never, ever giving up no matter how grim it may look.
Are you ALL IN on your writing dreams? Or do you have a backup plan for fear that you can’t really achieve what you want?
Here’s the truth: if a dream is inside you and if you feel called to achieve something, it’s because you’re meant to. It came to you because you have everything it takes to make it happen.
But you gotta get your head out of the sand, take a good look at where you are currently, and then go all in on closing the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.
No rules. No timeframes. No backup plans.
Dream life or bust,
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One Reply to “You’re Either All In Or You’re Out… Which One Are You?”
The classic backup plan is giving luck (or your own resistance) permission to shut your dream down at a certain deadline. And that’s just not being clear about what a major dream is:
It’s lifelong. Once you know what it is, it’s the “what else is there to do with your life” thing. If the dream isn’t working yet, you rethink how you’re going after it, but you don’t confuse that with it not being possible. The dream is possible *by definition*, because even if the odds were as bad as they look (and they never are), it all comes down to a day-to-day choice between a chance at the only thing that matters and no chance at all.
The problem with that “backup plan” is it’s a way to go live a backup life. Not your life.